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Brad & Abigail

Brad & Abigail

Our relationship started out with a few mishaps. Brad took Abby to a very nice steak house in Traverse City for our first date, and everything went well. The second and third dates weren’t so great… Brad got stuck on a job site the night of our second date and didn’t have cell services (or so he says) to call and let Abby know he would be late.

Brad was working on a 30-foot lift at his office when it broke...

Stood up on the second date, we still gave it another try. On the third date, Brad was working on a 30-foot lift at his office when it broke… and he was alone… with his cell phone in his truck! Luckily, Abby waited 30 minutes at the local ice cream shop and Brad eventually showed up.

We made it through the first three weeks and have been together nearly every day since. Luckily we are both flexible people, and it was a great life lesson. There are times in life and our marriage where things do not go our way, but if we push through the outcome is better than we ever imagined.

our adoption hopes

Gender:Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to an Older Child
Total of:1 to 3 Children

a snapshot of us

We Live In:Cadillac
Our Faith:Christian
Pets:Dog(s)
Kids Already:No Children Now
Child Care:Family Member Child Care, Licensed Child Care Home, 

Our Story

We met at a Diner where Abby worked as a waitress in 2015. After five short months of dating, Brad proposed at one of Abby’s favorite places, the Shed Aquarium in Chicago. We were married in September 2016 and are about to celebrate our 5th anniversary! In 2017 we added our elderly dog Nellie (nervous Nellie) to the family. She truly is a member of the family who loves snuggles on the couch.

We are both independent people and pride ourselves on having a strong work ethic. Abby enjoys traveling and adventure but also loves to snuggle up on the couch with a good book or movie. Brad is very grounded and driven but has a spontaneous, adventurous side as well. We have a lot of similar interests, but balance each other out in other ways.

We have learned how to best communicate with each other and how to support each other in rough times. We enjoy traveling to other countries and states. We also love exploring northern Michigan and try to take a few day trips every summer.

Brad proposed at one of Abby's favorite places...
And you cannot forget the s'mores!

Our Relaxation & Fun

Most weekends you will find us at a family member’s or friend’s house, helping with projects or just sharing a meal. On weeknights, we usually unwind with a puzzle, games, or a tv show. We spend lots of summer nights outside gardening or working around in the yard. We love to grill or cook over the fire pit in the backyard – and you cannot forget the s’mores!

We enjoy going to baseball games, whether it’s the Tigers or the Traverse City Beach Bums. Baseball is so much more fun in person, with ballpark food. We try to take trips each fall to explore lighthouses, beaches, waterfalls, and other natural beauties of our state. We usually take a week-long vacation each year with Abby’s family and are heading to Tennessee in the fall. We love trying new foods and restaurants and enjoy traveling around northern Michigan finding new places to eat, especially now that everything is back open.

our adoption hopes

Gender: Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child

Ethnicities: Any Race and Ethnicity

Age: Newborn to an Older Child

Total of: 1 to 3 Children

a snapshot
of us

We Live In: Cadillac

Our Faith: Christian

Pets: Dog(s)

Kids Already: No Children Now

Child Care Plan: Family Member Child Care, Licensed Child Care Home, 

Our Family & Friends

We are very close with our immediate families, and enjoy spending a lot of time with them. We are both the youngest of three children. Both of our parents have been married for over thirty years, and are great examples of strong marriages. We each have one sibling that lives close, and one sibling that lives down by Jackson, so we travel down several times a year. There is a combined 5 nieces and nephews, with two more on the way! We are thankful to have some so close, and often have sleepovers with our nephews.

We both group up in the area that we now live in, and have some lifelong friends. Throughout the last few years, we have developed strong friendships with our work families and our church. Abby enjoys a monthly girl’s night out with work friends. Brad spends his extra time over at his parent’s farm helping with the beef cattle or going to the local race tracks and tractor pulls.

There is a combined 5 nieces and nephews, with two more on the way!
We always have at least 2 DIY projects going at a time on our 1970's retro home.

Our Home & Neighborhood

Brad bought our home in 2010, and it has been a labor of love. Abby moved in after we were married in 2016. It is a cute ranch-style home, that sits on top of a hill. We always have at least 2 DIY projects going at a time on our 1970’s retro home. Our house sits on just over an acre of land.

Our next-door neighbors are good friends and we enjoy spending time on their hobby farm. We have a vegetable garden and a few flower beds, which Abby enjoys working in during the summer. We have great neighbors, a mix of elderly, other young families, and families with teenagers.

We love our home and our neighbors but hope to move onto a larger piece of property one day. We both grew up on 40 plus acre farms and would love to have our children experience some of the same freedom to roam and play.

Our Thoughts On...

Education

We believe that education is important and that there are many forms of teaching. Every child learns differently, some are hands-on and others are book learners. We as a couple learn very differently, Abby loves to read a good book or article, while Brad learns best by doing.

Brad is a strong supporter of the trades, learning hands-on skills that are vital for our economy. We believe that university is an important avenue as well. We want our children to know they have lots of options to choose from when they are ready for a career and that we will support them in their dreams and passions.

Correction & Discipline

Discipline is a necessary thing for all children. We believe discipline is a tool to sculpt children into loving, respectful, and productive adults. Children need to learn boundaries and how to take correction. We want to do that in a loving a safe environment as they are children so that as adults they will be able to handle themselves in the world.

We also understand that all children are different, and sometimes it takes different forms of discipline to reach different children. Because of that understanding, we do not have a set plan for discipline. We have read about many forms of discipline and feel prepared to tailor our techniques to the personality of our children.

Our Faith Views

We describe ourselves as Christians, but not religious. We are regular attenders of a Non-Denominational church in our community. Once a month we teach. We were both raised in the church, and we want those values for our children as well. We believe a relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important thing, and we do not follow all of the traditions of the religion. We believe that relationship is important and we want to share that with our children.

We are regular attenders of a Non-Denominational church in our community.
I enjoy helping people... , working with my brother.

Brad's Career

I run my own HVAC Company with my brother as my business partner. I enjoy helping people with their heating and cooling needs, working with my brother, and the challenge that the job can be. Each site is different and we create our own solutions to the problem. I especially enjoy making sheet metal. We recently purchased the machinery and I make most of the ductwork we install.

I plan to continue working full time to support my family after placement. I will assist with drop off/pick-up of taking the child to a licensed daycare or family.

Abigail's Career

I work for the City of Cadillac in the Community Development Department. I run the building department and rental program. Recently I am getting more involved in grant writing and project management. I love being involved in community planning and enjoy it when I get the chance to write grants to add parks, green spaces and improve our local community.

I plan to take a long maternity leave, as I am allowed up to 6 months. I plan to return to work after that. Our childcare plan is to place our child in a licensed daycare and/or with family. We have family members that have young children and stay home, our hope would be to have the child spend as much time with our trusted family as possible.

I love being involved in community planning and enjoy it when I get the chance to write grants to add parks.

Brad

Year of Birth: 1988
Education: High School and Some college
Occupation: Licensed HVAC / Mechanical Business Owner
Family Background:

I grew up in a small farming community in northern Michigan, the youngest of three children. Both of my parent’s families were from The Netherlands and I grew up in a predominantly Dutch community. My parents have a small farm with around a dozen beef cattle. My mother was a baker for many years, and we always had lots of great home cooking. She still spoils us with her yummy baked goods. Growing up my family enjoyed visiting family in Grand Rapids and going to the family cabin.

Abigail

Year of Birth: 1991
Education: Bachelor of Arts
Occupation: Administrative Assistant to Community Development
Family Background:

I am the youngest of three daughters to my parents. We are a mix of German and Scottish descent. Much of my extended family grew up close by, and I grew up spending lots of time with cousins. My immediate family is close, we enjoy holidays together as well as an annual birthday bash and an annual week-long vacation together.

We just want to say

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to read our profile and get to know us. Whether you choose us, another Greater Hopes family, or to raise this child yourself, we are extremely thankful that you have chosen life! We understand this is not an easy path, and we encourage you to lean on Greater Hopes. We know that Greater Hopes is here to help and support you, and we chose to partner with them because of the amazing testimonies we heard about the support they give to birth families.

We would love to talk with you and answer any questions you may have. We want to support and encourage you in any way we are able. We know this process will take a lot of raw emotions and honesty from us all, and we are ready for that journey. We have faith that when the time is right – everything will work out just the way it is supposed to.

Sincerely,

Brad
 and Abigail
Completed Educational Sessions
  • Behavioral and Emotional Needs of Adoptive Children
  • Child Separation, Attachment, and Bonding

Our ideal open adoption circumstances would be a family-like relationship. We envision participation in school events, athletics, birthdays, and some holidays. We would hope to speak via text, video chat, or phone call every couple of weeks. We hope to have good communication, to be able to speak openly and honestly even when things are hard and emotional.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

Our ideal open adoption circumstances would be a family-like relationship. We envision participation in school events, athletics, birthdays, and some holidays. We would hope to speak via text, video chat, or phone call every couple of weeks. We hope to have good communication, to be able to speak openly and honestly even when things are hard and emotional.

Just one more thing...

Our ideal open adoption circumstances would be a family-like relationship. We envision participation in school events, athletics, birthdays, and some holidays. We would hope to speak via text, video chat, or phone call every couple of weeks. We hope to have good communication, to be able to speak openly and honestly even when things are hard and emotional.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519