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Chad & Caroline

Chad & Caroline

One of the first things we do before we go on a trip is map out the best local restaurants, shops and uncommon sights that we hope to visit while there. For our first anniversary trip to Toronto, Canada in August, 2019 we mapped out a few highly rated dessert spots.

This is what dessert dreams are made of.

After waiting 40+ minutes to get our ice cream at Bang Bang Ice Cream, we finally sat down on the last open nearby bench. Chad had an ice cream sandwich: golden Oreo ice cream sandwiched between 2 cinnamon rolls. Caroline got an indulgent puffy waffle wrapped around a big scoop of chocolate mint Oreo and a scoop of cinnamon toast ice cream. This is what dessert dreams are made of.

Not even a few bites in and a torrential rain shower began to pour down. Thankfully, we were prepared for our day out and had an umbrella in tow. But after a few minutes and the stream forming in the street soaking our feet, it became clear that our huddled bench spot was not offering enough protection. We quickly finished our ice cream, drenched from the waist down, and took a chance to dash across the street to a covered but crowded doorway. Even though we were waterlogged for a good hour after that, we still dream about that ice cream! We would stand in that line for another hour in the rain for the best dessert in Toronto.

our adoption hopes

Gender:Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to 6 Months
Total of:1 to 2 Children

a snapshot of us

We Live In:Kentwood
Our Faith:ChristianOpen to All Religions  
Pets:Cat(s)
Kids Already:No Children Now
Child Care:Family Member Child Care, Stay-at-Home Parent

Our Story

We met through an online dating app. We like to joke that Chad was stalking Caroline; he was motivated! Our spark was instant, and we have been together since. That was 2014 and we were engaged on Christmas Eve 2016 at our annual party. We got married in August 2018 on admittedly the most magical day of our lives (seriously nothing went wrong!).

How Caroline would describe our relationship: We are best friends and Chad is my favorite person in the world. He still gives me butterflies, and I just love being around him. We are both fairly laid back (Chad more than me) and our relationship is a 50/50 partnership.

We laugh a lot together and when disagreements happen, any frustration does not last long because neither of us can hold a grudge or stay mad to save our lives.

Our relationship is never boring, and I feel like both of us are motivated to live full lives; Chad is such a curious person and pushes us to try new things. Chad makes me feel so secure and am so proud to have him as my partner in life. He’s an amazing man and has enriched the lives of my family and me and he’s going to be an incredible father.

How Chad would describe our relationship: I have never had someone in my life that cares about and loves me so unconditionally. The men are supposed to be the “strong” ones, but I am not at all ashamed to say she’s the strong one. She shows me unconditional love, calls me on my crap, has a great sense of humor, while also laughing at my absurd humor. She is an incredible cook and baker.

She is above all beautiful, outside and especially on the inside. She is so thoughtful, caring, empathetic and really likes helping. I think that’s why she’s in HR. She was truly meant for me, and I realize that more every day.

We laugh a lot together and when disagreements happen, any frustration does not last long...
Animals and caring for the earth is our passion.

Our Relaxation & Fun

• Anything outdoors: hiking, biking, gardening, home projects, camping, going to the pool, our goal is to visit all state parks in the US and MLB stadiums.
• Travel: our goal is to visit all 50 states and as many countries as we can. Each year we take at least one road trip, one to two camping trips or one big trip (we cannot wait to put our children in the carrier and explore!).
• Eat: we really enjoy a good meal and love to try new restaurants, cuisine and love to cook and grill.
• Relax at home: both of us have a homebody streak and enjoy a movie night in (or we go to the movies often), game nights with friends, a good book or for Chad a Sunday filled with football with his friends.
• Animals & Earth: Animals and caring for the earth is our passion. We have 3 amazing cats and we also foster kittens and cats. When our children get older, we cannot wait to get two dogs. Chad also wants to raise bees and if he has it his way, we will have chickens. We love to garden together and plan on having a garden filled with veggies. We also volunteer by helping clean up the city and planting trees.
• Individually: Caroline does yoga, reads thriller and mystery fiction and spends time every week on creative outlets in building/decorating/gardening projects. A typical weekend includes going to culture events in town, antique or other shopping and spending some time planning the week’s menu, cooking and/or baking.
Chad is a sports nut. On weekends Chad likes to get together with friends and watch football. Music is basically a part of his soul and he’s a self-proclaimed Hip-Hop Head. Chad also likes eccentric cartoons, anime and science or history shows.

our adoption hopes

Gender: Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child

Ethnicities: Any Race and Ethnicity

Age: Newborn to 6 Months

Total of: 1 to 2 Children

a snapshot
of us

We Live In: Kentwood

Our Faith: ChristianOpen to All Religions  

Pets: Cat(s)

Kids Already: No Children Now

Child Care Plan: Family Member Child Care, Stay-at-Home Parent

Our Family & Friends

We are very close to our family and both have smaller, closer knit groups of friends. Sunday dinner with the whole family happens every week at Caroline’s parent’s home and we see Chad’s parents every week as well.

Caroline has a larger extended family and while both sets of grandparents have passed away, the traditions of getting together for holidays, celebrations and to catch up is strong. Chad’s extended family is small and it’s easy to get together often for celebrations, holidays and just to spend time together.

Our families intermingle and our parents all get along well; this has become a motivator for a larger home that can hold everyone in one place for holidays.

Our friends are such a supportive and fun group of people with lots of kids (we are one of the last couples without kids). Being in our 30’s we spend time hosting, going to events and dinner.

Our families intermingle and our parents all get along well; this has become a motivator for a larger home that can hold everyone in one place for holidays.
Our neighborhood is culturally diverse, filled with young families

Our Home & Neighborhood

We currently live in a newer neighborhood in Kentwood at the end of a quiet cul-de-sac in a 4-bedroom home that Chad had built in 2013. Our neighborhood is culturally diverse, filled with young families like ours and a couple of blocks from the elementary school. It is just the two of us and our three cats.

In the longer term, we plan to have 2-3 children through adoption. We’re happy in our home and plan to remodel it over the years.

Our Thoughts On...

Education

We believe children should have a life centered on education, family, diversity, travel and a ton of fun. Lifelong learners here! We highly value education and already have plans in place to provide our children with the opportunities to succeed. We plan to spend K-12 in a good school district with additional help from their retired teacher grandma and hands-on help from us.

Beyond K-12 we will cover the costs for either half of a bachelor’s degree or the full cost of a trade school. We also see extra-curricular as an important part of education; playing a sport they enjoy or an instrument, we will encourage our kids to explore their interests and passions.

Correction & Discipline

We feel like communication is very important and discipline needs to be catered to the individual child. We do not believe in physical discipline. In our relationship, we already talk through issues and compromise.

So, as we go through parenting and discipline classes, it feels like second nature to treat conflict by weighing options and consequences. We want our children to feel respected and respect us back and plan to use techniques that help us both feel heard.

We think that positive discipline such as stickers on chore boards can help keep a child-focused on good behaviors. While this all seems magical on paper, we also are very realistic people that see value in evolving and being flexible when situations arise.

Our Faith Views

Organized religion does not play a large role in our lives. Caroline is the religious one of the two and identifies most with the Christian/Reformed Judaism faith. For her, God is a daily presence through prayer, appreciation and Chad also shares in the belief that being kind and loving and respecting others will lead to a full life.

Caroline is the religious one of the two and identifies most with the Christian/Reformed Judaism faith.
Being a part of getting people such a vital part of life is such an honor.

Chad's Career

I am a Gas & Electric Distribution Engineer at Consumers Energy. I really like my job! Being a part of getting people such a vital part of life is such an honor.

I will continue to work full time and Caroline will be part-time. But my work is 100% remote, so I’ll be at home and able to eat lunch and take breaks with our children.

Caroline's Career

I love my job! I work as a Human Resources manager for a restaurant group and there is never a dull day. I get to work with inspiring and fun people. By far, my favorite part of my work is the diverse group of people that I get to connect with and help. I love connecting with, learning from, teaching and finding joy with my coworkers and the employees I serve.

I will be the primary caretaker. Both Chad and I will take 3 months of leave when the baby comes. I will switch to a part-time schedule. When I am at work, our parents who live very close will babysit. As our children age, we want them to play and learn with other kids their age, so we found a preschool that’s centered on helping children learn, play and connect with nature.

There is never a dull day. I get to work with inspiring and fun people.

Chad

Year of Birth: 1983
Education: Some College
Occupation: Gas and Electric Distribution Engineer
Family Background:

My family background is French Canadian along with some Irish and Dutch. My ancestors emigrated to Sault St. Marie, MI from
Canada.

Caroline

Year of Birth: 1986
Education: Bachelors Degree in Human Resources Management
Occupation: Human Resources Manager
Family Background:

My father’s family has strong roots in the Netherlands like many West MI families. My mother’s side is a mix of Scottish, English and German.

Both of my grandfathers were adopted, one birthmother was a housekeeper whom immigrated from Germany to MI and the other’s birth mother and father lived in England.

We just want to say

Hello,
We are so grateful for you reading through this glimpse into our lives. We want to acknowledge the position you are in at this point, and how learning about the available choices speaks volumes about how much you love your child. We are thankful to be in this sacred space with you.

To be honest, writing this to you is intimidating. It’s hard to put into a letter and profile (that’s not 10 pages long) our dreams of becoming parents and who we are, but we hope that our vulnerability and openness so far helps you envision the imperfect but genuinely kind people that we are.

We are here for questions, so if you have any or want to know more, our hearts are open. We also want to learn about your wants, dreams and hopes.

We believe everything happens for a reason and that connections are made because they are meant to be. We are proud and happy in the life we share together and want so much to grow our family. To us this also includes you and your family. We are so excited about the opportunity to have an open adoption with the family that chooses us. We are two people in love, hoping to raise amazing individuals with their biological families, that enjoy their life and feel supported, loved and empowered.

We wish you and your child the very best in your journey and again appreciate the chance to share our story with you.

Thank you,

Chad
 and Caroline
Completed Educational Sessions
  • Behavioral and Emotional Needs of Adoptive Children
  • Child Separation, Attachment, and Bonding

We would like an open adoption because we strongly believe that raising a healthy, well-rounded child involves a connection to you. We want our child to have what they need to be able to find themselves especially in their teenage years; having you in their life is necessary for this.

As first-time parents, the idea of having other family in addition to grandparents, that will never get tired of sharing in the hundreds of photos, stories and all the firsts creates such a heartwarming feeling for us. We picture you as an extension of our own and part of the village that our child will be blessed with throughout their life. Also, for Caroline, she cannot wait to connect with you, bonding over this beautiful experience as women and mothers.

This welcoming spirit is also balanced with a desire to meet everyone’s needs and expectations as life progresses. Communication will be so important as everyone should feel comfortable being open about their hopes, wants, and dreams. We are committed to creating a relationship with you that involves open communication and flexibility.

As this is our first time as parents, let alone adopting parents, we’ve discovered that one of our best qualities has been our humbleness. As lifelong learners, we are open to the work that it will take to build a foundation with you that is strong for our entire children’s lives.

Caroline’s side of the family is large, so holidays and celebrations have always involved lots of people including family friends, therefore a new member or three would fit in perfectly. Chad’s family is smaller but very welcoming as well and has always been open to extending the table for more place settings.

Overall, we want what is best for our child. We see you being in our lives as an important part of creating this healthy environment. As we look to grow our family by two or three children through adoption, the thought of having everyone gathered for our annual Christmas eve party or a sporting event or performance followed by a big family meal excites us so much!

We hope to connect with you before the birth of the child. Open adoption is our ideal, and in the best circumstances, you would also see value in bonding with us to create a strong foundation that will last the child’s entire life. We would also be excited if you wanted to be involved and you felt comfortable meeting our family.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

We would like an open adoption because we strongly believe that raising a healthy, well-rounded child involves a connection to you. We want our child to have what they need to be able to find themselves especially in their teenage years; having you in their life is necessary for this.

As first-time parents, the idea of having other family in addition to grandparents, that will never get tired of sharing in the hundreds of photos, stories and all the firsts creates such a heartwarming feeling for us. We picture you as an extension of our own and part of the village that our child will be blessed with throughout their life. Also, for Caroline, she cannot wait to connect with you, bonding over this beautiful experience as women and mothers.

This welcoming spirit is also balanced with a desire to meet everyone’s needs and expectations as life progresses. Communication will be so important as everyone should feel comfortable being open about their hopes, wants, and dreams. We are committed to creating a relationship with you that involves open communication and flexibility.

As this is our first time as parents, let alone adopting parents, we’ve discovered that one of our best qualities has been our humbleness. As lifelong learners, we are open to the work that it will take to build a foundation with you that is strong for our entire children’s lives.

Caroline’s side of the family is large, so holidays and celebrations have always involved lots of people including family friends, therefore a new member or three would fit in perfectly. Chad’s family is smaller but very welcoming as well and has always been open to extending the table for more place settings.

Overall, we want what is best for our child. We see you being in our lives as an important part of creating this healthy environment. As we look to grow our family by two or three children through adoption, the thought of having everyone gathered for our annual Christmas eve party or a sporting event or performance followed by a big family meal excites us so much!

We hope to connect with you before the birth of the child. Open adoption is our ideal, and in the best circumstances, you would also see value in bonding with us to create a strong foundation that will last the child’s entire life. We would also be excited if you wanted to be involved and you felt comfortable meeting our family.

Just one more thing...

We would like an open adoption because we strongly believe that raising a healthy, well-rounded child involves a connection to you. We want our child to have what they need to be able to find themselves especially in their teenage years; having you in their life is necessary for this.

As first-time parents, the idea of having other family in addition to grandparents, that will never get tired of sharing in the hundreds of photos, stories and all the firsts creates such a heartwarming feeling for us. We picture you as an extension of our own and part of the village that our child will be blessed with throughout their life. Also, for Caroline, she cannot wait to connect with you, bonding over this beautiful experience as women and mothers.

This welcoming spirit is also balanced with a desire to meet everyone’s needs and expectations as life progresses. Communication will be so important as everyone should feel comfortable being open about their hopes, wants, and dreams. We are committed to creating a relationship with you that involves open communication and flexibility.

As this is our first time as parents, let alone adopting parents, we’ve discovered that one of our best qualities has been our humbleness. As lifelong learners, we are open to the work that it will take to build a foundation with you that is strong for our entire children’s lives.

Caroline’s side of the family is large, so holidays and celebrations have always involved lots of people including family friends, therefore a new member or three would fit in perfectly. Chad’s family is smaller but very welcoming as well and has always been open to extending the table for more place settings.

Overall, we want what is best for our child. We see you being in our lives as an important part of creating this healthy environment. As we look to grow our family by two or three children through adoption, the thought of having everyone gathered for our annual Christmas eve party or a sporting event or performance followed by a big family meal excites us so much!

We hope to connect with you before the birth of the child. Open adoption is our ideal, and in the best circumstances, you would also see value in bonding with us to create a strong foundation that will last the child’s entire life. We would also be excited if you wanted to be involved and you felt comfortable meeting our family.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519