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Jacob & Danielle

Jacob & Danielle

We met while Dani was working at a local bar, one where Jacob’s dad (Mark) happened to frequent with a few of his friends. And after some time, and Mark getting to know Dani a little bit, the thought struck that he should introduce her to his son. So naturally he calls Jacob’s older brother to come on down and say hi!

The thought struck that he should introduce her to his son. So naturally he calls Jacob's older brother to come on down and say hi!

Unfortunately, he showed up too late, and Dani had left for the night, and he lost his opportunity. The next time around Mark had another great idea and he called Jacob instead, who managed to show up on time, and it only got better from there.

Our Story

Cut to 2020, we are happily engaged and starting to plan for our wedding, already having booked a venue and going over the finer details. Suddenly the venue says we can’t have as many people as before, and then a little later after that they say we can have even less, and so we decided to skip all of that. Jacob floated the idea of having the wedding at the same cottages that we go to in the summer, and just renting a tent.

And we took off from there. We had a beautiful lakeside wedding with our family and the people closest to us, and would not change it for anything. That big romantic event is wonderful to think back on, but our relationship is built on small events. We do not think we are necessarily the most exciting people in the world, but our small everyday moments together are our fondest memories. Whether that be laughing at a show or movie together, or just sitting on the couch reading something, just enjoying each other’s presence.

Suddenly the venue says we can't have as many people as before...
We have a Dungeons & Dragons campaign going with Jake's brother and two of our closest friends that has been ongoing since the lockdown in 2020.

Our Relaxation & Fun

Jake: My main hobby would be playing video games; I beat Super Mario 64 all by myself when I was a kid and never stopped from there. In a similar vain, I enjoy pretty much all types of media, that being movies, tv shows, and even anime. I particularly LOVE the Studio Ghibli movies, and even have a tattoo commemorating my favorite, My Neighbor Totoro. As for sports, I am a fan of the Detroit Lions and the Red Wings, unfortunately I am also the fan of the Green Bay Packers, which infuriates my brother to no end. I also am a huge fan of mixed martial arts, particularly the UFC, and watch every event that they put on.

Dani: I love to cook! And happily use my culinary degree to make meals and desserts for my husband and anybody else that I can. I love to read, especially romance, fantasy, and anything involving any kind of mythology. I am learning to sew, and have a multitude of patterns that I am looking forward to be able to create.

Together! We have a Dungeons & Dragons campaign going with Jake’s brother and two of our closest friends that has been ongoing since the lockdown in 2020. Jake is the Dungeon Master and runs the campaign for us! We also love going to Grand Rapids Griffins game, we go to multiple games a year trying to get all the freebies that we can. We enjoy watching movies and tv shows together and with friends on our deck, along with entertaining our animals as much as they entertain us!

our adoption hopes

Gender: Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child

Ethnicities: Any Race and Ethnicity

Age: Newborn to 2 Years Old

Total of: 1 Child

a snapshot
of us

We Live In: Grand Rapids

Our Faith: Open to All Religions  

Pets: Both Cat(s) and Dog(s)

Kids Already: No Children Now

Child Care Plan: Family Member Child Care  Stay-at-Home Parent  

Our Family & Friends

We are both thankful to be living close to our families still, which means we get to see them on at least a weekly basis but dropping by and saying hi is an easy option for us all!

Dani has two younger sisters who text each other almost on a daily basis. She also has three girlfriends that she has known since high school, and still get together on a regular basis to have dinner or to just hang out with each other. Dani’s parents were both heavily involved with school functions and extra curricular activities while Dani and her sisters were growing up, and will no doubt be the same for any grandchildren.

Jacob has an older brother and they share the majority of their hobbies and interests together, though his love for the Detroit Lions will put anyone else’s to shame. Both his parents will be retired in the near future. If the way they stole our dog or even our cats for the day is any indication, they are both very much looking forward to being grandparents and babysitting whenever they can!

We are both thankful to be living close to our families still
We also are right by the Blandford Nature Center, which means we have ample access to some really nice nature trails!

Our Home & Neighborhood

We were surprised to find out, while watching a random episode of a TV show about tiny homes, that those homes were only a little bit smaller than our own square footage wise! Our home is a bit small, but we have done a lot of renovation and have more plans in the future! We have redone every room on the entire main floor and even finished the basement to turn it into something more than just a large storage space.

We live right across the street from a church/school and happen to be on a relatively busy stretch of road, so there can be a bit of traffic at certain times. But thankfully we have a fenced in backyard (specifically done for the dog of course), and even built ourselves a deck that we use almost constantly as long as the weather plays along. We even will be able to use the school playground that is right across the street!

We also are right by the Blandford Nature Center, which means we have ample access to some really nice nature trails and even some of their wildlife rescue habitats!

Our Thoughts On...

Education

Both of us went to public schools, and we believe that provided us a grounded look at how the world works, and how to prepare ourselves for the future. we are fortunate enough to live in an area with two large public school systems to choose from. We were both involved in music and sports in school, and will gladly support our child in whatever activities or programs that they want to involve themselves in.

One of Dani’s closest friends already has two children of her own, and they have already talked about how to bring fun and educational activities into the home. Dani is an avid reader and already has a small collection of children’s books going.

Correction & Discipline

We have gravitated to liking the habits that are in the Montessori Style parenting. Not only are you treating your child like the small human beings that they are, you are teaching them discipline through natural consequences, using clear language to explain if you do this, then this happens. Teaching them to validate their feelings and start to self-regulate. Both of us grew up in a house where there was spanking, and we feel it had no negative impact on us, we do not want to use that form of discipline.

We also do not believe in eating all the food that is on your plate. It is a very 90s concept and creates a negative connection to food. We would like to teach them the right way to act rather than to wait for them to misbehave and the scold, threaten, or use punishment to get the behavior that society deems correct.

Our Faith Views

Dani was raised Catholic and still occasionally attends church but more often attends and assists with church events; but would consider herself non-practicing. Jacob was raised as Christian, but now considers himself an atheist. Our differences in our faith has not been any kind of damper in our relationship, in fact we both consider that trying to be good just for the sake of being good is more important than tying it to a faith of any kind.

While the child is growing up, we do not plan to instill any kind of religious beliefs one way or the other, and will let the child make that decision on their own in the future. We believe it will be more impactful and more important to them if they make the decision to follow faith themselves.

We both consider that trying to be good just for the sake of being good is more important than tying it to a faith of any kind.
I do also work from home, which affords me ample opportunities to take care of our house, give attention to our animals, and run any errands that may need to be done!

Jacob's Career

That job title is a fancier way of saying I am in Tech Support, so I spend a lot of time helping out my coworkers when they are having issues with anything that they are using. It is a simple but nice feeling when someone is grateful for me helping them out. I do also work from home, which affords me ample opportunities to take care of our house, give attention to our animals, and run any errands that may need to be done!

I look forward to being able to be at home for many childhood moments that some other parents may usually miss due to being at work!

I plan on taking the first couple of days of along with Dani and then another two weeks off after Dani is done taking her time off so that at least for 7 weeks one of us is always there. Thankfully since I work from home I will still be around and available to help her in any ways right away, and even into the future I will even always be around when one of the grandparents is babysitting.

Danielle's Career

While I did not follow in my degree path, I do enjoy the people I work with very much, we even get together outside of work every once in a while, just to hang out with each other. I also have a seasonal job at Schwallier’s Country Basket where I can do all the cooking that I want.

I will be taking 5 weeks off right away and we are fortunate enough to have two grandma’s that are excited to help with daycare when I do end up going back to work.

I do enjoy the people I work with very much, we even get together outside of work every once in a while, just to hang out with each other.

Jacob

Year of Birth: 1992
Education: Bachelor’s Degree in Biometric Security from Davenport University
Occupation: SAL Technical Analyst
Family Background:

My mom is originally from Florida but my dad was born and raised a Michigander. My grandparents use to come up every summer in their motorhome to visit but they recently made the move to live up here permanently. We usually get together for dinner on a weekly basis every Sunday, sometimes going out to a favorite spot or just ordering in. We are all Detroit Lions fans, which means we are used to disappointment, but the future is looking pretty great!

Danielle

Year of Birth: 1990
Education: Associate’s Degree in Culinary Management from GRCC
Occupation: Branch Operations Manager
Family Background:

My family has always been in Michigan! My paternal grandmother is second generation Polish, and my sisters and I love celebrating Polaski weekend here in Grand Rapids, going to the halls and dancing. Once a month we get together at a local bar and have dinner together just so we can see each other and catch up! Every summer we rent cottages at Platte Lake and go with my mother’s extended family, a group of about 20 of us spend the week together there sitting by the fire, cooking, hiking, tubing, and swimming to our hearts content.

One of my closest friends growing up was adopted, and my grandmother was a foster parent for 37 years. Adoption has always been a part of my vocabulary, and my family are all very supportive about this, and are looking forward to welcoming their first grand child with open arms.

We just want to say

This is certainly not the easiest thing to do in life, both for you and for us. Our intention is not to offer empty words of encouragement, but recognize the difficulty of this situation. We just want to say, that we respect every decision you made that brought you to this point. And if there is anything we can do to make you more comfortable in this process, please do not hesitate to bring it up. We want nothing but for everyone to be relaxed and happy with how this all goes. We look forward to the possibility of getting to know you better and working together to ensure the best outcome for everyone involved.

Jacob
 and Danielle
Completed Educational Sessions
  • Child Separation, Attachment, and Bonding
  • Child Development, Including Safe Sleep Practices for Children
  • Behavioral and Emotional Needs of Adoptive Children
  • Impact of Adoption on the Family
ADVANCED EDUCATION & TRAINING

Adoption creates a unique kind of family, and our home is open. We will be happy to include you in our family’s milestones, achievements, and celebrations. Our goal is to create a supportive environment where we all get to contribute to this child’s life in a meaningful way. Our plan is to ensure that this child grows up with an awareness of their adoption, and not shy away from the questions that will come along with it.

We want to be on the same team, we want a relationship that focuses on the happiness of the child, and to cultivate a sense of belonging from all sides. What is best for the child, will most likely end up being what is best for all of us too.

We respect and appreciate the decisions that brought you here to us, and are grateful that you would consider us in this decision.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND

Adoption creates a unique kind of family, and our home is open. We will be happy to include you in our family’s milestones, achievements, and celebrations. Our goal is to create a supportive environment where we all get to contribute to this child’s life in a meaningful way. Our plan is to ensure that this child grows up with an awareness of their adoption, and not shy away from the questions that will come along with it.

We want to be on the same team, we want a relationship that focuses on the happiness of the child, and to cultivate a sense of belonging from all sides. What is best for the child, will most likely end up being what is best for all of us too.

We respect and appreciate the decisions that brought you here to us, and are grateful that you would consider us in this decision.

Just one more thing...

Adoption creates a unique kind of family, and our home is open. We will be happy to include you in our family’s milestones, achievements, and celebrations. Our goal is to create a supportive environment where we all get to contribute to this child’s life in a meaningful way. Our plan is to ensure that this child grows up with an awareness of their adoption, and not shy away from the questions that will come along with it.

We want to be on the same team, we want a relationship that focuses on the happiness of the child, and to cultivate a sense of belonging from all sides. What is best for the child, will most likely end up being what is best for all of us too.

We respect and appreciate the decisions that brought you here to us, and are grateful that you would consider us in this decision.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
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Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519