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Jeffrey & Angel

Jeffrey & Angel

Ten days before Angel was due with Wesley, we decided to go out to dinner. It was a beautiful, sunny October evening. Strangely, we wanted to eat everything on the menu! After discussing it for a few minutes and deciding to let go of any self-consciousness or shame that we might otherwise feel, we decided to order two appetizers and three entrees.

At first, when the food arrived we thought that maybe our eyes were bigger than our stomachs. But, our fears were unfounded. We ate every last bite. We found ourselves talking and laughing all through the meal. We agreed it was the most fun (and the most food) we had had in a while!

She spun around and exclaimed, I'm not ready! I'm not ready!

Shortly after we got home that evening, Angel’s water broke. She spun around and exclaimed “I’m not ready! I’m not ready!” But, of course, Angel was ready. She had a profoundly beautiful and sacred labor and birth experience. We didn’t know it was the last time we’d be able to go out to dinner for several months.

Seven weeks later, Jeff was diagnosed with an aggressive and life-threatening illness. Even after months of treatment, the doctors didn’t expect him to make it a year. When we went out to dinner that night, we had no idea how much our lives would change over the next months. It was years before we experienced the lightness and ease of that night.

Two years later, one of Jeff’s doctor’s described his recovery as a miracle. We look back on that night and the lessons it taught us with fondness – to enjoy every experience you can, to trust God’s timing, and the experiences in your life no matter how simple or mundane, because you never know when it may be your last or what the path ahead holds.

our adoption hopes

Gender:Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to 3 Years Old
Total of:1 to 2 Children

a snapshot of us

We Live In:Grand Rapids
Our Faith:Christian
Pets:Both Cat(s) and Dog(s)
Kids Already:One Child Now
Child Care:Family Member Child Care, Stay-at-Home Parent

Our Story

We’ve been married fifteen years!! It’s hard to believe. We were fresh out of college when we got married. We are very deep communicators and share very deeply held values.

We love the outdoors and being active, so we’ve spent many hours together walking or hiking and talking non-stop over the years! (Well, Angel does most of the talking – Jeff is an introvert).

Before Wes was born, we’d often go on a walk after work or after dinner and find that we were gone for two or three hours. Back then we also used to go out to eat quite a bit.

Since Wes was born, things have changed. Now, when we get to really talking Wes will chime in “Guys, stop talking so much. Let’s play with legos!”

Though he’s not old enough to realize it yet, Wes is a talker too! We find that it is important for our relationship to still make time for the two of us to walk and have deep conversation.

Guys, stop talking so much. Let's play with legos!
We're always looking for new ways to play outside.

Our Relaxation & Fun

We love to be active! We like running, walking, and hiking. Angel also does yoga. Jeff has played recreational soccer and basketball. If we can be active outdoors, that is the best!

We’re always looking for new ways to play outside. We also love camping. We recently bought a small travel trailer to help make the camping experience (especially the sleeping experience) better and easier to do with Wesley.

As an introvert, Jeff also enjoys reading and writing. Angel loves nature walks and foraging, gardening, and learning new things. As an extrovert, Angel tends to bring fun to everything she does!

And, Wesley is right there with Mama! We have a lot of fun “racing” around the house, cuddling and reading books, walking through the woods, playing soccer, and telling stories or listening to Wes’.

Lately, Wes has been making up songs to sing – he and Angel are the musical ones.

Our Family & Friends

Angel’s family; mom, dad, oldest sister and her children all live in Grand Rapids and we see them pretty regularly. We get together for holidays and most everyone’s birthdays. Angel’s other sister lives in Montana, so we don’t see her as often but keep in touch by phone and text.

Jeff’s mom, aunt and uncle, and cousins all live in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. We visit 2-3 times per year and Jeff’s mom also visits pretty frequently. She plans to move to Grand Rapids in the next year or two.

We have several different networks of friendships. Some we have maintained since high school, while some friendships have developed over the past several years.

Angel's family all live in Grand Rapids and Jeff's all live in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.
We are also walking distance to an apple orchard whose property has several miles of trails through the woods.

Our Home & Neighborhood

We live at the end of a quiet cul-de-sac in Northeast Grand Rapids. Our street has families of varying ages. There are several grandparents on the street who watch their grandchildren regularly.

There are also several young families, like us. Fortunately, there are also some teenage girls who like to babysit from time to time! Our favorite aspect of our neighborhood is the access to nature.

Our yard backs into a county park system with nature trails. We are also walking distance to an apple orchard whose property has several miles of trails through the woods.

We have spotted deer, fox, owls, frogs, toads, raccoons, and many other fun animals, birds, and bugs in our yard. Previously we lived in the city and having nature surround us has been a huge gift.

We are in the Forest Hills school district. We have no foreseeable plans to move at this time.

Our Views

We believe that every child is different and that their educational needs and goals may be different. It is important to us that our children receive a strong education.

We believe that a strong education is not necessarily one of academic knowledge and prestige, but which equips a child to know and understand him and herself and his or her gifts and passions and to transform those into a meaningful career. After receiving an educational foundation, we believe in encouraging and supporting our children in the areas that they are most gifted and passionate.

Our faith is very important to our life. It guides our deepest held values and shapes how we live and what we think about every aspect of our life. To keep it simple and short, our faith can be summarized in our desire to love God with our whole being and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

We strive to always remain open and loving because we believe this is what God asks of us. We have always been active in our church. Angel oversees a program that gets meals to people who need them for various reasons.

Jeff has served on steering and various other church committees. We strongly believe that serving the “church” means serving those around us in the ways we are gifted to serve. So, we try use our strengths and passions to help those around us whenever possible. Angel enjoys cooking and helping with child care for people and Jeff has offered legal help and spiritual council.

Discipline helps to provide structure and boundaries for children as they explore the world. It is also important for teaching children how to be safe. We believe effective discipline teaches children about consequences while still allowing the child to be heard and exercise their ability to make decisions.

We believe discipline should be tailored to the age and circumstances of the child. We also believe that discipline should be based on respect for others and not fear.

Angel oversees a program that gets meals to people who need them for various reasons.
I've had the privilege to see several former employees earn promotions or start new careers.

Jeffrey's Career

I supervise a team of people who handle claims where our customers are being sued – usually by someone that was seriously injured. My favorite part about my job is helping my employees learn something new or achieve their personal or professional goals!

I’ve had the privilege to see several former employees earn promotions or start new careers. Seeing them achieve their goals is by far the best part of my job! I also like that it always makes me think, it’s never boring and rarely tedious.

Angel's Career

I stay home to take care of Wes. I enjoy cooking all of our meals from scratch and am passionate about giving my family a healthy, organic diet as much as possible. I also spend time caring for Wes.

I love to get Wes outdoors to teach him about nature and provide him with opportunities to socialize. I also teach some yoga classes and do some fitness and health coaching. In the warmer seasons I teach yoga on a small farm. I also love to garden.

I am passionate about giving my family a healthy, organic diet as much as possible.
We just want to say

Thank you so much for reading our page! We are so grateful you’ve taken the time to get to know us. We hope that you have gotten a sense of who we are. We are so excited to add another child to our family! Since before we were married, we always wanted to adopt. We are also extremely mindful of the brave decisions that birthparents are making.

We are a family that is full of love, we want to share that love. We are very open to creating a situation that takes into account the unique circumstances of the birthparents that select us and most importantly the child or children that join our family. Our openness means that we are entering this process as much as possible without judgment or preconceived ideas, but a genuine desire for the best possible outcomes and relationships.

In our fifteen years of marriage and four years of parenting, we have learned that love involves sacrifice. We believe that all of the parties involved in an open adoption make enormous and unique sacrifices. Our experience has taught us that being open to change and sacrifice teaches us more about ourselves, and offers the opportunity to see profound beauty in life and others that would not be possible otherwise.

We enter this process mindful of, grateful for, and willing to make those sacrifices as we all learn together how to make the relationships work and thrive for the good of the child or children.

Jeffrey
 and Angel

Jeffrey

Year of Birth:  1982
Education:      B.A. Calvin College; J.D. Michigan State University College of Law
Occupation:   Attorney/Claims Supervisor
Family Background:

My family is like a European mutt. We have a lot of different nationalities represented in our blood. My dad’s side of the family is from a small rural town near the Mississippi River in Illinois, not too far from where Mark Twain was from.

My Mom’s side of the family is half from out west and half from Chicago. My Grandpa on my Mom’s side was a cowboy and sheep-herder in rural New Mexico, my Grandma on my Mom’s side grew up in Chicago.

I grew up in the Chicago area, though my Mom and most of my family are in Milwaukee today (my Mom plans to move to Grand Rapids in the next year or two). We get together for major holidays and have family reunions every couple of years.

Angel

Year of Birth:  1983
Education:      B.A. Calvin College
Occupation:   Stay-At-Home Caretaker
Family Background:

I am from Grand Rapids, MI. Both of my parents grew up on the West side of Grand Rapids. My mother is Polish and my father is polish and Scotch-Irish. Our holiday gatherings feature polish food like polish sausage, kapusta, and polish roses.

We try to get together for all of the major holidays and most of their birthdays. Christmas is an especially important holiday. We spend most of the day together at Angel’s parents in comfy clothes opening presents, stockings, eating, and playing games.

Our ideal birth family relationship would be one of open communication and mutual understanding where everyone is willing to put aside their own interests and judgments for the sake of the child’s or children’s best interest.

We would love for you to be like a fun aunt and uncle that could have fun with the child(ren) and us and be present at family events and take the kid(s) out to spoil him or her on occasion.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

Our ideal birth family relationship would be one of open communication and mutual understanding where everyone is willing to put aside their own interests and judgments for the sake of the child’s or children’s best interest.

We would love for you to be like a fun aunt and uncle that could have fun with the child(ren) and us and be present at family events and take the kid(s) out to spoil him or her on occasion.

Just one more thing...

Our ideal birth family relationship would be one of open communication and mutual understanding where everyone is willing to put aside their own interests and judgments for the sake of the child’s or children’s best interest.

We would love for you to be like a fun aunt and uncle that could have fun with the child(ren) and us and be present at family events and take the kid(s) out to spoil him or her on occasion.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519