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Matt & Alex

Matt & Alex

It started with a GIF of Zac Efron eating a slice of pizza sent over Facebook Messenger. It was Matt’s birthday in 2014, and Alex sent Matt a very kind message wishing him a happy birthday and a wonderful next year of adventures in life. They had been friends on Facebook for a while thanks to a mutual friend, but had never met in real life. Matt was taken by this handsome man who sent such a nice, considerate message (which later he would learn was a very forward move for Alex as a self-proclaimed introvert).

...and we have been sending each other GIFs and eating pizza together ever since.

After a few days of messaging back and forth, Matt, being the sociable planner that he is, suggested they find a day on their calendars to meet each other face to face. Alex suggested a pizza place near him, after seeing Matt make previous Facebook posts about his love of pizza. Then, Alex sent the Zac pizza GIF, and Matt was sold. The first date was a success and we have been sending each other GIFs and eating pizza together ever since.

While this story may seem silly, it is very indicative of who we are and how our two very different lives have come to live together in harmony. Alex is still very much that considerate, courteous, introvert who is so observant and thoughtful. Matt is still the planful, affable extrovert who loves conversation and celebrations. Beyond our different personalities, we learned that we are very similar in all the core ways that make a relationship successful. Our love is strong, filled with open mindedness, kindness, adventure, and a love of laughter.

Our Story

We met in the summer of 2014 when we were living on opposite ends of Los Angeles, CA. We spent the first year of our relationship going on adventurous dates around the LA area, many of which included our favorite foods: coffee, pizza, ramen, and ice cream! Within a year, Matt invited Alex to move in with him to eliminate the long drives and hours in LA traffic.

In 2016, Matt was fortunate enough to live out a lifelong dream of being a contestant on a game show and won the grand prize! With that money, we decided to plan the next steps of our lives together. That New Year’s Eve, we got engaged (Alex surprised Matt with a romantic proposal while they were in Michigan visiting family). Soon after, we planned to move back to Michigan to pay off debt, be located closer to Matt’s family, and start a family of our own. We moved to Michigan in April 2017 and have lived in Grand Rapids since.

We are a very lovey-dovey and warm-hearted couple. We understand each other’s love languages and demonstrate our love for each other daily in those particular ways. Friends and family always tell us what a good match we are! A funny example of this is when recently Matt’s mom asked us “have you two even had your first fight yet?”. We haven’t. Neither of us are confrontational people, and we will always effectively discuss any disagreements before they become arguments. Simply put, we balance each other out in the best ways.

We understand each other’s love languages and demonstrate our love for each other daily in those particular ways.
... Now we enjoy playing a variety of games together!

Our Relaxation & Fun

We are definitely a gamer family! Before we met, Alex had a passion for video games and Matt had a passion for board games. Now we enjoy playing a variety of games together! We also like to invite friends or family over for game night in our brightly decorated game room.

We have also bonded over our love for adventure and trying new things. We love to go on road trips, try new restaurants, and visit tourist attractions. It is hard for us to pass up an escape room or mini golf when we visit a new place.

On a regular weekend, we often enjoy picking up cafe miels at a local Grand Rapids coffee shop, strolling through the Farmers Market, and going for walks in the local parks playing Pokemon Go. We are very easy going and low maintenance. We do not drink or enjoy long nights on the town. We are perfectly happy enjoying a night in with a jigsaw puzzle or just chatting together on the couch.

Individually, Alex enjoys working out and is dedicated to a regular exercise schedule. He is learning Japanese and will spend some time each day studying. Matt enjoys cooking and shopping and also catching up on the latest episodes of his favorite reality competition TV shows like Survivor and Amazing Race.

our adoption hopes

Gender: Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child

Ethnicities: Any Race and Ethnicity

Age: Newborn to 12 Months

Total of: 1 to 2 Children or 2 Siblings

a snapshot
of us

We Live In: Grand Rapids

Our Faith: Nonreligious  

Pets: No Pets

Kids Already: No Children Now

Child Care Plan: Stay-at-Home Parent  

Our Family & Friends

Matt’s family is in southwest Michigan and we visit them frequently. Matt’s mom, two siblings, and six nieces all live within a one hour drive. Matt’s family loves to celebrate holidays with potluck family dinners and laughter filled game nights.

Alex’s immediate family, including his parents, lives in Phoenix, AZ, with extended family scattered throughout California. He speaks with them on the phone and via text frequently. He has three older brothers and a younger sister and six nieces and nephews. We fly to visit Alex’s family at least once a year.

Alex’s mom and sister-in-law are fantastic cooks, and they always treat us to an abundance of authentic homemade Mexican food (our favorites are tostadas and churros!). Alex also has a very close relationship with his younger sister who will come to Michigan to visit a few times a year.

Throughout our lives, we’ve lived in a wide array of places including Michigan, California, Tennessee, and Mexico, and we have made a diverse collection of friends that we love. We still have very strong connections to our friends in California, who will come visit us in Michigan throughout the year. We are also thankful for our circle of friends in Michigan who include several other LGBTQ+ families with children, some of which are adopted.

Our friends and family are incredibly supportive of us and the adoption process. We know there are dozens of loved ones across the country who are ready to provide a loving support system for the addition to our family.

We’ve lived in a wide array of places including Michigan, California, Tennessee, and Mexico.
The neighborhood is fairly diverse and we see kids and teenagers of many different races and nationalities playing basketball and riding bikes.

Our Home & Neighborhood

We live in a cute duplex south of Grand Rapids. We enjoy the neighborhood because it is fairly quiet and family friendly, yet located close to retail shopping and restaurants. We live in Kentwood school district and have elementary, middle and high schools all within walking distance. We also are quite close to the Kentwood Branch of the Kent District Library. The neighborhood is fairly diverse and we see kids and teenagers of many different races and nationalities playing basketball and riding bikes.

Our house has a fenced in yard and deck that we enjoy when the weather is nice. The home has two bedrooms, with one room ready for our first child. We also have a finished basement area that we use as the game room and exercise space. Matt enjoys decorating for holidays, something passed down to him from his parents, so our home is often decorated for the nearest holiday, with festive décor that gets rotated throughout the year.

We are very happy with where we live and have no plans to move in the near future. Our place is close in proximity to family and friends. We both work from home, so we would have the flexibility to move if we wanted, but we are currently quite content with the home we have created for ourselves.

Our Thoughts On...

Education

Education comes from a variety of different places. Of course we feel that structured education and school is important, and we will encourage our child to be a responsible and successful student. Beyond schooling, we feel it is important to be curious and inquisitive. We want our child to learn from relationships with diverse people and having interesting and meaningful life experiences.

We hope to help our child find interests and educational opportunities that will lead them to a career and life that will provide them happiness and self-fulfillment. Beyond learning for school or degrees, we want them to learn about what makes them special and unique. We want to instill confidence and self-love for them to lean into their strengths and talents. If they want to be a meteorologist, a Zumba instructor, a social worker, or a pastry chef, we just want them to find a life’s work that is meaningful to them. We can’t wait to cheer them on every step of the way!

Correction & Discipline

We believe that structure and discipline help a child learn boundaries and gain differentiation between right and wrong. The strongest foundation for discipline is clear and open communication. In our own relationship, we always deescalate challenging situations by having honest and respectful conversation, and we plan to pass this on to our child. We are strongly opposed to physical punishment or public shaming and will not allow either in our family.

We also believe that certain negative behaviors do require intervention. We plan to be on the same team when it comes to applying the appropriate level of intervention based on the severity of the negative behavior.

Our Faith Views

We both have had strong connections to organized religion in our lives, but currently consider ourselves to be agnostic. We hold the belief that any ultimate reality is unknown and probably unknowable, and feel that love and compassion for all things in our world and universe is of utmost importance.

Alex grew up Catholic and is now agnostic. Much of Alex’s family, particularly his parents, are Catholic and it plays a large role in their lives.

Matt grew up in a non-religious household, but started going to a Christian Bible Church when he was a teenager and into his college years. He felt that attending church and getting closer to God would heal his inner struggle with his sexuality, but instead he felt shunned and pushed away from organized religion because of their closed-minded views on the LGBTQ+ community. Matt now considered himself agnostic.

We do not consider religion to play an important role in our lives, but we still are very respectful of other people’s religious beliefs. Many of our friends and family members have a variety of religious beliefs. We feel that spirituality is a journey for each person and they should be comfortable to make choices that are best for their own lives.

We still are very respectful of other people’s religious beliefs. Many of our friends and family members have a variety of religious beliefs.
I am excited about being home and having this flexibility to spend time with the child during preschool years.

Matt's Career

At the start of the pandemic I was laid off from both my jobs (Fundraising Events Manager at a local cultural institution and pub trivia host for a nationwide company). The first week of lockdown I decided to write some trivia questions and go live on Facebook to give my friends and family something fun to do while cooped up at home. Everyone had such a great time, they requested I do it again the next week. And then the week after that. And the week after that. Pretty soon I was hosting a weekly show and had people asking me if I could host private events for their birthday party, baby shower, or work team building event.

After success for several months, I decided to file as an official LLC and start my company, Here’s Your Host! I create custom game shows and trivia events for special occasions, fundraisers, corporate events, and more. I have hosted over 350 events over the past two years, including corporate events for companies like Microsoft, Verizon, Steelcase, and The Children’s Place. In addition to my successful online events, I have been hosting more events in-person around the West Michigan area for companies, libraries, birthday parties, family reunions, festivals, etc.

I still host my weekly trivia show and have players from all over the country tune in on Zoom to play. Through fundraising shows and weekly charitable donations, my company has given over $13,000 to community organizations across the country.

One of the great things about my job is that I work from home full time and make my own schedule. I plan to provide child care at home and schedule my work accordingly. I am excited about being home and having this flexibility to spend time with the child during preschool years.

Growing up, my mom was able to stay at home and take care of me, and I feel so fortunate for the bond I have with my mom to this day, which I feel was built on the strength of our relationship in my early foundation years. I am excited to be able to provide that level of care, love, and connection to our child.

Alex's Career

My job is perfect for me. For the past seven years I have worked for a retail merchandising company. My tasks change every week and the schedule is very flexible. I go to different retailers around West Michigan to complete various tasks. Sometimes they are very complex and technical projects like building a store demo display for electronics products, and other times it could be as simple as ensuring that a certain brand of products is fully stocked on the shelves.

Have you ever been to a store and checked out the latest phone? You know how the phone is displayed with a demo mode and attached to a security system? I put that together and made sure the demo was working. Have you gone to the grocery store and noticed all of the chocolate organized by size and flavor? I go in and make sure the store has plenty out and make sure it looks neat.

When I was a kid, was this the dream job I wished for? Not exactly, but I do enjoy it and I’m very good at it. My supervisor often thanks me for being such a dependable and kind employee.

A great thing about my job is how flexible it is. Each week, I have a certain number of projects assigned to me and oftentimes I get to choose the day and time I complete that project. If I need to stay home for a certain reason or take our child to a doctor’s appointment, I have that opportunity. I will just need to arrange my schedule to complete projects on a different day that week. I am happy that my job will allow me the flexibility to attend important events and school functions that our child will have. I can also be readily available in case of emergencies. Matt also works from home, so he will be available immediately as well.

I am happy that my job will allow me the flexibility to attend important events and school functions that our child will have.

Matt

Year of Birth: 1980
Education: Bachelor’s Degree in Music Industry Management
Occupation: Business Owner & Game Show Host
Family Background:

I was a surprise baby! My parents had my brother and sister early in their marriage and thought they were done having kids until I surprised them 11 years later. My family grew up in a small town in southwest Michigan. My mom still lives in the house I grew up in. My dad passed away unexpectedly in 2007. My brother has four daughters and my sister has three daughters, so I have seven awesome nieces (no nephews!).

My family is big into holidays and birthday celebrations (a tradition that has stuck with me as an adult). My parents loved to decorate the inside and outside of the house for every holiday. We also have several traditions with our holiday gatherings including our annual Easter Egg Hunt, Memorial Day barbeque, and sloppy joes while passing out candy on Halloween (our family’s house was the most decorated on the block and we would get a TON of trick-or-treaters!).

My family was also very involved with volunteering in the community. My parents were leaders on the planning committee for my hometown’s annual summer festival, and we spent a lot of time planning events and activities for the festival. My family is no longer on the planning committee, but I still donate to the festival through my business, as I now host a trivia event each year. There is a gazebo dedicated in my dad’s memory in the park where the festival is held each year.

Alex

Year of Birth: 1983
Education: High School and Some College
Occupation: Retail Merchandiser
Family Background:

My parents are from the same small, remote village in Mexico. It’s the type of town where everybody knows everybody and half the town is related. Being from Mexico means we have mostly Native American blood, with a splash of Spanish, and just a dash of Asian. My parents moved to the US after my first brother was born and soon after most of my family lived in LA.

Having such a big family meant that there was no such thing as a small gathering. There was always some random uncle or distant cousin that would swing by our house followed by another, and another. Pretty soon the grill would be fired up, ready for some carne asada, quail, tacos, tostadas, and for dessert, churros! My parents’ house was the central hub for all of the siblings and cousins. Every major holiday would mean cars parked around the block, loud music, games, and lots of laughter. While I love my family, sometimes the gatherings can be overwhelming for me, as an introvert. If anybody was looking for a break in the action, I would gladly welcome them to my room where I was ready to play video games and connect one-on-one for a while.

My immediate family consisted of my mom and dad, and four boys. I was the youngest. Being immigrants meant we spoke Spanish at home, but quickly picked up English at school. I’m glad I am fluent in Spanish, because it lets me have a relationship with my grandparents. Then, we were all surprised when my sister was born, 15 years after I was. We were all very protective of her so she likes to joke around and say she grew up with five dads.

We just want to say

Hello! We are grateful you have taken a moment to review our profile. While we will never fully understand the full range of emotions and thoughts you are experiencing, we know we do have one thing in common: LOVE. You are coming to Greater Hopes because you have love for your child, and we are coming to Greater Hopes because we have a lot of love to give.

Individually, we both dreamed of raising a child someday. That desire only grew stronger once we met each other and started dating. One of the first things that made our hearts ping was when we spoke about starting a family and becoming dads.

As a two-husband household, we knew bringing children into our family would require an unconventional method. We researched many options, including surrogacy, but we both felt moved towards adoption. We have lots of love to give, and we know there is a child out there that needs the love, joy and acceptance that we can provide.

If you have read our profile and something has resonated with you, we would love the opportunity to get to know you and answer questions you may have about our family and the future. We are big believers in energy, vibes, and connection. If you’ve felt a good connection or energy from us, we hope to have the chance to meet and learn more about you.

We promise to come into the process with total respect for you and a mindset of creating a life that is best for your child, filled with love from everyone involved.

With love,

Matt
 and Alex
Completed Educational Sessions
  • Behavioral and Emotional Needs of Adoptive Children
  • Child Separation, Attachment, and Bonding

We value open and respectful communication within our relationship, and we hope to have open and respectful communication with you. We understand that adoptive children will have their own unique challenges with understanding their identity and we want to have a healthy relationship with you for the benefit of this wonderful child. Relationships with healthy boundaries and communication are best for everyone involved.

We would find it appropriate to get together with you several times throughout the year (quarterly) if that seems appropriate to you. As we’ve mentioned above, our family is big on celebrations and holidays, so we would welcome get-togethers around birthdays or other special occasions. We are also quite comfortable sending photos and text message updates periodically if you wish. Once the child is older, if you would enjoy coming to extra-curricular activities or school events, we would certainly welcome that.

We also understand that people change and evolve over time, and we hope to build a relationship of open communication to talk through these changes with you.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND

We value open and respectful communication within our relationship, and we hope to have open and respectful communication with you. We understand that adoptive children will have their own unique challenges with understanding their identity and we want to have a healthy relationship with you for the benefit of this wonderful child. Relationships with healthy boundaries and communication are best for everyone involved.

We would find it appropriate to get together with you several times throughout the year (quarterly) if that seems appropriate to you. As we’ve mentioned above, our family is big on celebrations and holidays, so we would welcome get-togethers around birthdays or other special occasions. We are also quite comfortable sending photos and text message updates periodically if you wish. Once the child is older, if you would enjoy coming to extra-curricular activities or school events, we would certainly welcome that.

We also understand that people change and evolve over time, and we hope to build a relationship of open communication to talk through these changes with you.

Just one more thing...

We value open and respectful communication within our relationship, and we hope to have open and respectful communication with you. We understand that adoptive children will have their own unique challenges with understanding their identity and we want to have a healthy relationship with you for the benefit of this wonderful child. Relationships with healthy boundaries and communication are best for everyone involved.

We would find it appropriate to get together with you several times throughout the year (quarterly) if that seems appropriate to you. As we’ve mentioned above, our family is big on celebrations and holidays, so we would welcome get-togethers around birthdays or other special occasions. We are also quite comfortable sending photos and text message updates periodically if you wish. Once the child is older, if you would enjoy coming to extra-curricular activities or school events, we would certainly welcome that.

We also understand that people change and evolve over time, and we hope to build a relationship of open communication to talk through these changes with you.

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Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519