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Nate & Stacey

Nate & Stacey

When Nate and I were on our Honeymoon, we went on a jungle tour in St. Lucia. On the way, the guide told us we would be seeing something very special at our first stop. When we got there, he picked up a rusty container… which contained a giant tarantula spider!

The guide told us we would be seeing something very special.

Both of us were so blown away that there was a giant tarantula before our eyes… Literally 5 feet away from us!!!! That experience and many others would prove to form a unique bond of curiosity that both of us have. It continues to help us grow, learn and experience amazing new adventures together.

our adoption hopes

Gender:Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to 4 Years Old
Total of:1 Child

a snapshot of us

We Live In:Gaines Township
Our Faith:Open to all religions
Pets:Both Cat(s) and Dog(s)
Kids Already:One Child Now
Child Care:Licensed Child Care Center, 

Our Story

Stacey is the milk. Nate is the peanut butter cookie. We just go together well. In all seriousness, we are very fortunate to have a great marriage and a wonderful friendship. We believe the thing that ties everything together is supporting one another through the good times and bad.

We met back in 2010 when we both worked for the same hospital. We started to date in 2011. We got a house, two cats, a dog, got married in 2013, and… the rest is history! (we also currently have a goldfish named Mr. Fish).

Our love for fun, travel, the outdoors, and spending time Up North keeps us busy – but we are always looking for our next adventure. A few years ago we started a family- and then came Tessa Rose, our adventurous toddler. Tessa will be a wonderful sister…. she LOVES babies and other kids! We have always wanted her to have a sibling and couldn’t imagine her growing up without one. One of our Uncles once said, “everything grows better in pairs!” We couldn’t imagine her not having someone to play with and get into (a little bit) of mischief with!

When we look into the future, we see our kids growing up and sharing their lives together, having each other to lean on and making wonderful memories together long after we’re gone.

That’s the story of us :)

Stacey is the milk. Nate is the peanut butter cookie.
We like to relax at the cottage and find fun little things to do.

Our Relaxation & Fun

Our greatest passion is traveling up North! We spend a lot of time there in the summer. Nate’s family has a cottage on Lake Michigan where we spend days playing at the beach and catching golden sunsets.
We spend time playing and shopping around town, baking and cooking with our family, and enjoying time together. We have visited nearly all the lighthouses near the cottage, but there is so much more to discover.

After long days of ‘adventuring’, we like to relax at the cottage at night and find fun little things to do with Tessa. She recently discovered her love for bonfires and s’mores! She is really getting into Disney movies (FROZEN everything), which means that Stacey is living her best life (and thinks she should be singing all the Disney songs for the movies… ha ha ha).

Otherwise, we like to play outside, kayak, travel to the zoo (we really love animals), watch lots of Star Wars movies and sports, and are currently teaching Tessa how to bake!

Tessa also wanted us to mention that she loves Dinosaurs, Legos, eating (LOL), DISNEY everything, gummy bears and marshmallows.

Our Family & Friends

We are so fortunate to have most of our family and friends living with us here in West Michigan! Both sets of Grandparents are local, as well as all of Stacey’s siblings, which allows us to spend lots of time together. Stacey’s sister has two daughters: one that is the same age as Tessa, and the other was born about 18 months after them. It’s really fun to see them all playing together and building little relationships as they get older.

Both of Nate’s brothers serve in the military; one in the Navy (California) and the other in the Army (Georgia). Although we miss having them here in Michigan, we are so incredibly proud of the work they do and for the sacrifice they make to serve our country. Both brothers frequently visit, but in-between those times, we like to Facetime and send updates through text.

We have a wonderful system of local friends who also have young kids who we spend time with often. During the summer we like to have BBQ get-togethers! The kids outnumber us, but we don’t mind!

We have a wonderful system of local friends who also have young kids.
We plan to have each child have their own room that could be decorated however they wanted.

Our Home & Neighborhood

We live in a really cute neighborhood in Caledonia. Our house is the typical two-story house, but filled with fun and love. The inside is usually littered with toys (both child and pet toys!) but we make it work.

The basement is finished and mostly used to watch movies or sports and to do the occasional load of laundry. The main floor has a little office, living room, and our kitchen. The upstairs has 3 bedrooms (we occupy one, Tess is in the second, and the third would be for our new munchkin)

We plan to have each child have their own room that could be decorated however they wanted. There is a bathroom on each floor.
The backyard has a large deck that is covered and plenty of yard and grass to play in for hours! There is also a massive playset with saucer swings, a treehouse and slide. We have a small basketball pad and hoop next to the deck.

We built an enclosed garden a few years back that will be really fun for the kids to play in and grow flowers and veggies when they get a few years older.

Our neighbors are really nice and also have small children and grandchildren. We plan to stay in this location for the time being.

Our Views

Attending college was very impactful and important to both of us.
It had a profound impact on who we became as adults and we realize how lucky we were to be able to attend (and it was of course a lot of fun!) We have already started to put funds away for our children to attend college or to study any other interest they may have.

It would be a dream for us to have our kids attend college or play collegiate sports, but we also know there are so many other amazing things to do after high school. Because of that, we want to support any interest our kids have and not force them into anything traditional. There are other passions they could follow, like art school, trade school, or studying abroad (which would be AMAZING!!!) The end goal for our family is to have our kids find passions that excite them and to follow dreams that make them happy.

We are not actively attending a church, but are very open and supportive of anyone’s belief system. Our family believes in keeping an open mind and being accepting and supportive of others’ values and religions. We would make every attempt to help bring some of your religious background into our new child’s life. We’d both like to believe there is an angel watching over our family : )

We tend to talk through things more so than using traditional / outdated methods. Spanking, or any other form of physical discipline is not a discipline method we believe in – in fact, we agree that these forms of discipline do not work.

When we need to have a ‘talk’, we sit and work through what needs to change and always end our conversation with a hug. We try to use whatever the issue is as a teachable moment, so that our kids can learn to recognize why they are in trouble and to grow from that.

There are other passions they could follow, like art school, trade school, or studying abroad.
My employer also understands that need for flexibility in raising a family.

Nate's Career

I am the in-house attorney for a small, family-owned company that sells and leases regional aircraft and engines, and distributes parts for both. The aviation industry is an interesting and unique field, I enjoy the challenges my job brings, and I enjoy working with a great team that is based locally and globally. Since we’re a small, family-owned company, my employer also understands that need for flexibility in raising a family – something I have always appreciated.

I’ll continue to work full time after placement and, as Stacey describes, our new child would attend daycare with his or her older sister, Tessa. I have about an hour commute to work, so I am not able to do drop off or pick up on a daily basis – but I make it a point to do one or the other at least once every week – if not more often.

Stacey's Career

I love my job! The people I work with are amazing and fun. I’ve worked in healthcare for nearly my entire career. Currently, I work with an international dialysis company that helps provide life-saving care for thousands of people throughout the world.

I’ve been there for almost 5 years and hope I can stay for many more. I get to help coordinate operations for our region and make sure everyone stays on task! My favorite thing about my role is getting to plan parties and our annual Christmas presents for staff and patients. It makes me feel like a real-life Santa and I really enjoy knowing it makes people feel appreciated and valued.

We work full time and plan to stay working once we adopt. Our daughter, Tessa, attends a childcare center right across the street from where Stacey works! It is very convenient and she likes being able to peek out her window and see the kids playing outside.

The teachers are wonderful and Tessa really enjoys being able to play with other kids throughout the day. It is great social interaction which she needs to develop and also keeps her busy! They have lots of fun activities: Thursday is water day (outside water activities), visits from the local traveling petting zoo and ice-cream truck day! When we adopt, we would also like to have our new munchkin attend with Tessa.

My favorite thing about my role is getting to plan parties and our annual Christmas presents for staff and patients.
We just want to say

“I knew when I met you an adventure was going to happen.” – Winnie the Pooh It’s true; life is an adventure. Some days we’re traveling to discover a lighthouse in a town we’ve never been to, and other days were cuddled up on the couch watching Frozen and eating popcorn. But every day, big and small, is still an adventure. For us, the best part of the adventure is having each other to enjoy it with.

Our life is perfectly imperfect. Our kitchen is never clean. The pets always make a mess. And we’re usually a few loads behind on laundry. But, our house is a ‘home’, and that home is a place of love. If we could tell you or give you anything, it would be peace of mind. When you’re lying awake at night thinking about your little one, you would know your child would be with an awesome family who loved that kid beyond their imagination. You would know that we are doing everything in our power to make sure they grow up strong and healthy. You would know that their racial and cultural heritage is being taught, embraced and celebrated. You would know we were lying awake too, probably stressing about what we packed for their lunch, if they had the right Crayons to take to school, and if they had enough money in their backpack to buy cookies at lunch.

We’d be peaking in their room at 2 am to make sure they were okay, even though we knew it was ridiculous, but that we couldn’t go to sleep until we checked just one more time. You would never have to question if they were loved, if they had the things they needed, if they got enough hugs, or told they were an amazing little person put on this earth to change the world. Having a toddler, we already know that feeling. Looking at something that has been on the earth for a few dozen months and thinking, “What amazing things is this little human going to do?” and “I can’t wait to see their adventure.” “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin

Nate
 and Stacey

Nate

Year of Birth:  1984
Education:      Law Degree
Occupation:   Attorney- In House Counsel
Family Background:

My family background is Swiss, German, and Scotch-Irish. As far as family customs or traditions go, we are big on holiday gatherings for Thanksgiving or Christmas – usually a lot of extended family getting together to cook and eat and laugh and watch the Lions lose football games.

As a family we also enjoy spending time in Sleeping Bear Dunes area of northern Michigan – dating back to before I was born! – hiking, kayaking, climbing the Dune, and swimming in Lake Michigan.

Stacey

Year of Birth:  1984
Education:      Masters in Public Administration (Health Care Emphasis)
Occupation:   Regional Administrator
Family Background:

My family is a ‘fruit salad’- a mix of wonderful cultures and backgrounds. My dad’s side is German/Irish, and my mom’s family is Hungarian! Basically, this means it’s in my DNA to eat lots of carbs! :)

My grandpa still cooks traditional Hungarian food and used to visit his family there when we were younger. When he came home, he would bring us Hungarian porcelain dolls, lace and Hungarian chocolate. It is one of my fondest memories growing up and helped me learn about our heritage.

When reflecting on what our ideal relationship would look like, we would be open to evaluating and developing our relationship with you, depending on the dynamic of our relationship and each other’s needs.

Although it is hard to plan a relationship with someone you haven’t met yet, our number one commitment would be to keep open and honest communication with the birth family, to treat you with respect and do everything we could to emotionally support you.

We would want to keep an open mind and allow you to communicate what your hopes and dreams would be, which we believe would be a wonderful platform to start building that relationship on.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

When reflecting on what our ideal relationship would look like, we would be open to evaluating and developing our relationship with you, depending on the dynamic of our relationship and each other’s needs.

Although it is hard to plan a relationship with someone you haven’t met yet, our number one commitment would be to keep open and honest communication with the birth family, to treat you with respect and do everything we could to emotionally support you.

We would want to keep an open mind and allow you to communicate what your hopes and dreams would be, which we believe would be a wonderful platform to start building that relationship on.

Just one more thing...

When reflecting on what our ideal relationship would look like, we would be open to evaluating and developing our relationship with you, depending on the dynamic of our relationship and each other’s needs.

Although it is hard to plan a relationship with someone you haven’t met yet, our number one commitment would be to keep open and honest communication with the birth family, to treat you with respect and do everything we could to emotionally support you.

We would want to keep an open mind and allow you to communicate what your hopes and dreams would be, which we believe would be a wonderful platform to start building that relationship on.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519