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Robert & Candace

Robert & Candace

Keep your eye on the tide when vacationing at the beach is an important lesson we learned while vacationing in South Carolina. After an afternoon of sightseeing, we wanted to hit the beach for a couple of hours before heading back to the hotel. We arrived at the beach and placed our clothes, car keys, phones and shoes on the shore and went into the water. Shortly afterward, we got a startling alarm from people on the beach shouting at us. They were pointing at our belongings which were floating away. The tide had come in and our belongings were going with it.

We got a startling alarm from people on the beach shouting at us.

We quickly ran out of the water and up the beach to gather our belongings before we lost them forever. We placed them further up the beach and went back into the water. Little did we know this was only the beginning of a very long night. As we went to leave we gathered our belongings and made the long trek back to the car. As we got closer to the car we started looking for the keys only to discover that neither one of us had them.

Then it hit us, they were in the ocean! We ran as fast as we could back to the beach in the hopeless pursuit of finding the keys. Did we mention the car was a rental?

We spent the rest of the night on the phone with the rental company trying to get into the car. The first gentleman that arrived had received the wrong information and thought we had simply locked our keys in the car. They were only able to get us into the car, so we had to call again to get a tow. By this point, it was about 9 in the evening. After hours of back and forth with the tow company, we had to abandon the car and take an uber back to the hotel around 11 pm.

We woke up bright and early the next day and started all over again with calling the rental company. We were eventually able to meet a tow driver at the vehicle where he loaded it up and took us to the car rental place to get a new car. At this point, we were only halfway through our trip.

This whole experience showed us just how strong our relationship is. It taught us to not get frustrated when you can’t control circumstances. The keys were gone and there was nothing we could do about it. It taught us patience with one another. We could of blamed each other and ruined our whole trip but we chose to laugh. Things do not always go our way. Through this experience, we learned to just go with it. This applies to every aspect of our life. Life can get frustrating, but life is an adventure and we just have to learn how to ride the waves.

our adoption hopes

Gender:A Boy or A Girl
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to 2 Years Old
Total of:1 Child

a snapshot of us

We Live In:
Our Faith:Christian
Pets:Both Cat(s) and Dog(s)
Kids Already:No Children Now
Child Care:Licensed Child Care Center, Stay-at-Home Parent

Our Story

We meet in 2011 at college as neighbors. For the first couple of years of our relationship, we had to navigate the challenges of a long-distance relationship. It had its challenges, but we found ways to stay connected through letters, care packages, and frequent Skype calls. We got married in 2016 in rural Pennsylvania surrounded by all our friends and family. Throughout our relationship, we have faced many challenges.

Being a biracial couple we are culturally different and we had to find a way to merge these two cultures while also respecting each other’s cultures. In the early stages of our relationship, we experienced criticism over it. Even now, we still have moments of criticism, but we have grown stronger and closer over the years.

Within our relationship, we have a healthy respect for one another and our cornerstone is being able to openly bring our concerns to each other whether they be big or small. We try to keep the fun in our marriage even in the hard times. There is nothing that a good kitchen dance session can’t cure. Even if for a moment. There is so much love in our marriage and the only thing that we are missing is a child that we can love and pour into.

We try to keep the fun in our marriage even in the hard times.
We are currently on an adventure to try the best pizza in every state.

Our Relaxation & Fun

We are a very active couple. In our free time, we enjoying being outside and exploring the world around us. We will often spend our days exploring a new park or hiking trail. We love to travel. Many of our vacations include driving to different states. Our favorite is driving through random towns and seeing what they have to offer. We have found some really awesome places on a whim.

We love checking out different museums and learn new things. We enjoy hiking, camping, swimming, and just being active. We like to try and get some form of exercise every day and find ways to incorporate healthy meals in our diet while also indulging in the occasional ice cream cone or Friday night pizza. We also enjoy lazy days. A quiet day at home spent doing yard work followed by a movie with a big bowl of popcorn.

Some nights we will play a board game or just hang out on the couch together reading different books with our animals keeping our feet warm. We are currently on an adventure to try the best pizza in every state. So far we have traveled to 16 different states to try their pizza. We love doing this because it has allowed us to see so many interesting parts of the country while also eating yummy pizza along the way.

our adoption hopes

Gender: A Boy or A Girl

Ethnicities: Any Race and Ethnicity

Age: Newborn to 2 Years Old

Total of: 1 Child

a snapshot
of us

We Live In:

Our Faith: Christian

Pets: Both Cat(s) and Dog(s)

Kids Already: No Children Now

Child Care Plan: Licensed Child Care Center, Stay-at-Home Parent

Our Family & Friends

Family is very important to us. Without the support of our family, we would not be where we are today. We talk with our parents often and try to see them as often as we can. Candace was raised by a single mom and has an older brother and sister. We are all very close and have a chat group together where we can check in with each other and video chat on a regular basis. Candace has 7 nieces and nephews that range in age from 8 to 21.

All of them are so different and we have just loved watching them grow and being there to support them. The kids love Uncle Robert and are always getting him to play something with them. Robert was raised by two loving parents and has a loving older brother. Robert’s household was always focused on being with family. He had summer road-trip experiences, family game nights, and snowmobile trips.

Leaving home and traveling as a family is a big component of Robert’s life. There is no feeling quite like being around the ones you love. Robert’s brother John was his biggest fan, always supporting his passions. John passed away in December 2020, and this changed Robert’s mindset. To make the best of each moment because life truly is short. Robert and John always had each other’s back through tough moments and for that, he will always be grateful.

Together, we have lots of aunts, uncles, and cousins. We try to all get together at least a couple times a year. We have a solid group of friends that are more like our family. We are always getting together just because. They are always just a call away. They have helped with home repairs, laying flooring and countless other things. Our job moved us a little further away from our blood family, and they have really been instrumental in making us feel at home. They have been with us through all of our ups and downs and we can honestly say we would not know what we would do without them.

We are all very close and have a chat group together where we can check in with each other and video chat on a regular basis.
The only traffic is people who live on our block. It is a quiet and safe neighborhood. We know many of our neighbors and we are always looking out for each other.

Our Home & Neighborhood

We currently own a three-bedroom home with a large finished basement with plenty of space for kids to play. We have a large backyard with a veggie garden and a playground not too far away. We live on a dead-end street where the only traffic is people who live on our block. It is a quiet and safe neighborhood. We know many of our neighbors and we are always looking out for each other.

There is always someone out walking when we take the dog for a walk. At this time we have no plans for moving. We love our home, we love our neighborhood, and we love how close it is to everything. We are hoping to continue growing our family, so we will eventually be looking for a larger home to accommodate us. For now, our home is perfect for us and a couple of kiddos.

Our Thoughts On...

Education

We love education. There is so much to learn in this world and we are firm believers in making learning fun. We know that kids are not going to love every subject. It is then our job as parents to support them through the tough subjects and try to find ways to help them to succeed. We want the best for our children and would encourage them to pursue what brings them joy.

We want them to get excited about learning. We are still learning new things every day. Even as adults, we try to learn new things or fun facts that we can share with one another. It doesn’t have to be in the traditional sense. Education goes beyond the classroom. We would plan to send our children to the local charter school.

Correction & Discipline

We grew up with two very different forms of discipline. In Roberts’s home, time-outs were the only real form of discipline. In the African American community, spankings and tough love were common and Candace experienced both. That is not something that we want for our children. Our plan for discipline is to communicate with the child.

Children are just bundles of emotion and they have yet to learn how to properly express themselves. If communication does not work then the next step would be a time out or removal of an item. We will adjust based on the child and their behaviors.

Our Faith Views

Religion plays a crucial role in our life. We strive to keep God in the center of our relationship. We attend church on Sundays and Bible study on Wednesdays. We serve in various areas of the church from greeter, to assisting with kids church, or leading the occasional Sunday school lesson. We say grace before every meal and try to sit down every week together to do a devotional.

We both grew up going to church and it never wavered once we went to college and set out on our own. We believe that God has a plan for our life. He has thrown us some curveballs over the years, but they have only strengthened our relationship and us as individuals. We don’t know what his plan is for our life and why he has placed us on the path that we are on, but we are just trusting and believing that his plan for our life is good and that he has our best interest in mind.

We serve in various areas of the church from greeter, to assisting with kids church, or leading the occasional Sunday school lesson.
I have had the pleasure of learning new things about different people's cultures from all over the world.

Robert's Career

Through my job, I am exposed to different cultures every day. I have had the pleasure of learning new things about different people’s cultures from all over the world. I like talking and getting to know the people that come through the port. I take pride in my job because while I am getting to know people I am ultimately serving a higher purpose of protecting people from things that may be harmful to our community. I am keeping my family safe ad that helps to motivate me.

I currently have a rotating schedule with 10-hour shifts. This schedule ultimately gives me three, sometimes four days off at a time. My long-term goals would be to continue to move up in my positions through the agency to better provide for my family. My job is very family-oriented and I have a great support system in my co-workers and management. I have a flexible work schedule that will allow me to be there for my child whatever the need may be. I want to be there for them and be the best father I can be.

Candace's Career

I have always had a love for animals. There is something so special about taking care of the voiceless. I create this bond with these animals and for whatever amount of time they are in my care they will know love. I have worked with all kinds of animals from cats and dogs to llamas, reptiles and wolves. My favorite part of my job is the education component.

I love going into schools and camps and watching the kid’s eyes light up as I bring the different animals around. Answering the flurry of questions that come after my presentation is the best. Even the shyest kid comes out of their shell when animals come around.

I am pursuing a Master’s in Clinical Mental Counseling. I have always been an advocate for mental health, especially in the African American community. My ultimate goal is to work with mental health professionals. While I am still pursuing my degree I will eventually be working part-time at a mental health facility to gain experience.

Once a child is placed in our care they will become my top priority. I will ensure that my schedule will allow for me or my husband to be present with the child. In the event that we both have to work, we have a great support system that will assist with child care. Ultimately it will depend on the needs of the child. We will adjust to fit their needs.

I love going into schools and camps and watching the kid's eyes light up as I bring the different animals around.

Robert

Year of Birth: 1990
Education: Bachelor degree in Conservation Law Enforcement
Occupation: Agriculture specialist for Customs and Border Protection
Family Background:

My family comes from Ireland and England. My mother’s family immigrated during the Irish potato famine era through Ellis Island. My father’s family immigrated shortly before the revolutionary war-late 1700s. My father’s family was very active in the Revolutionary war and some members served as Majors in the war. One was famous at the battle of North Bridge in Concord Massachusetts.

The famous shot heard round the world was in response to what my late great uncle said to fire on the British. I am an avid history enthusiast and my uncle started my fascination with old artifacts by showing me my late Uncle’s powder horn which is now in the museum at Minute Man Park in Concord MA.

My mother grew up in Springfield Massachusetts, a large and diverse city. She grew up with four other siblings. My father grew up on a family farm in New Hampshire with his five siblings. My Uncles still work the farm fields today and some of my best memories are helping my Uncle’s driving the tractors. I spent many summers helping get hay ready for sale. I grew up in a smaller town in New Hampshire with my older sibling.

My family is a closely-knit family. Some of my family traditions include the annual Fourth of July Pots and Pans Parade. Also every New Year’s Eve, we would travel to my Uncle’s house and play board games all night long and eat lots of food. We also have a traditional Thanksgiving walk at my Grandmother’s house.

Every December 26th for the past few years, we have celebrated a white elephant gift party. A white elephant gift party is when you find something in your house that you no longer use and bring it as a gift. The more random the gift makes it more exciting.

Candace

Year of Birth: 1992
Education: Bachelors degree Captive Wildlife Care and education, pursing a Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
Occupation: Shelter manager for Humane Society
Family Background:

I was born and raised about 45 minutes outside of Chicago, Illinois. We have been in that area for over 50 years. My family is well known in the community, especially the sports community. Growing up, Sundays were always family days. We would go to church and then have Sunday dinner with the whole family.

The week would get so busy that it was nice to have a day devoted to just the family. Every father’s day we gather at my grandpa’s house and Mother’s day with my grandma. Holidays are always a good time with family. Many of my fondest memories are of summer barbeques with the whole family or game nights with my siblings.

We did not have much, but we had everything that we needed. We have continued the Sunday tradition in our home, but with a twist. Since we are unable to get together with the family we make our favorite meal every Sunday or try a new recipe.

We just want to say

We are excited, nervous, and joyful to be potential adoptive parents to your child. We have been praying for this moment and believe that it was not by accident that our paths have crossed. We would be first-time parents, but we have been waiting for an opportunity to grow our family for years now. We are so excited to become parents. We have been licensed foster parents for almost a year and have not had a child placement yet.

We believe that it is because God was preparing us for something bigger. Every morning we complete our morning devotions in our nursery that is already set up and waiting for a child. Every day we pray over the crib. We pray for the child that will eventually sleep in it. We pray God will keep them and protect them until they find their way into our home. We thank God every day for blessing us with a child and for the family that brought the child into the world.

Our marriage has endured many trials; moving, job changes, infertility, and family loss. Through every trial we have faced we have learned to lean on each other which in turn has nourished a happy and healthy marriage. If you choose us to care for your child, we promise to shower them with love every day. We promise to teach them good manners and to love everyone despite personal opinions, to be inclusive.

We promise to teach them that it’s okay to fail, but never to give up. We promise to encourage them to explore. We promise to teach them about their culture and how to navigate any challenges that come with it. We promise to fully immerse them into our lives and families from day one. Lastly, we promise to love this child with all that we have and provide for them the best life we possibly can.

Robert
 and Candace
Completed Educational Sessions
  • Behavioral and Emotional Needs of Adoptive Children
  • Child Separation, Attachment, and Bonding

We are willing to explore options about staying connected to the birth family. On the other hand, if birth parents are not interested in an open adoption we will respect those wishes. We would want to wait at least a year for in-person interactions so the child can get settled into our home. We want to involve birth parents if they would like to, but we also want to draw clear lines.

Our fear would be that the birth parents would form a stronger bond with the child than us which would ultimately make parenting difficult and make us feel out of place. We ultimately want a healthy relationship with the birth parents. We do not want bitterness between us and birth family but also understand the stressful nature of adoption and the pressure of giving a child away.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

We are willing to explore options about staying connected to the birth family. On the other hand, if birth parents are not interested in an open adoption we will respect those wishes. We would want to wait at least a year for in-person interactions so the child can get settled into our home. We want to involve birth parents if they would like to, but we also want to draw clear lines.

Our fear would be that the birth parents would form a stronger bond with the child than us which would ultimately make parenting difficult and make us feel out of place. We ultimately want a healthy relationship with the birth parents. We do not want bitterness between us and birth family but also understand the stressful nature of adoption and the pressure of giving a child away.

Just one more thing...

We are willing to explore options about staying connected to the birth family. On the other hand, if birth parents are not interested in an open adoption we will respect those wishes. We would want to wait at least a year for in-person interactions so the child can get settled into our home. We want to involve birth parents if they would like to, but we also want to draw clear lines.

Our fear would be that the birth parents would form a stronger bond with the child than us which would ultimately make parenting difficult and make us feel out of place. We ultimately want a healthy relationship with the birth parents. We do not want bitterness between us and birth family but also understand the stressful nature of adoption and the pressure of giving a child away.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519