Very early on in our relationship, we decided to go on a 2 day hiking/camping trip in the wilderness. We carried everything we needed on our backs and headed in to the woods.
Before too long we were completely lost and ended up walking toward the sound of a nearby road. It was quite hot that day, and we were many miles from our car. Both of us wanted to cry, but our relationship was young so we held it in.
We kept smiling and walking until we reached the road. Before long a truck slowed down and asked us if we needed help. The man said his daughter was currently hiking through the Upper Peninsula. He said that he hoped if she needed help, someone would help her. Sarah was terrified of hitch hiking, but trusted Max, and we let the man give us a ride to our car.
This experience put our relationship to the test at an early stage, and we trusted each other to make the scary decisions that ultimately got us out of our situation. We operate according to this principle of trust to this day and work to find creative solutions to our problems.
When we make important decisions, we work hard to ensure we are both are satisfied and heard. We often think back to this story and how having a little faith in each other made all the difference.
|Gender:||Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child|
|Ethnicities:||Any Race and Ethnicity|
|Age:||Newborn to an Older Child|
|Total of:||1 to 2 Children|
|We Live In:||Grand Rapids|
|Our Faith:||Open to all religions|
|Kids Already:||One Child Now|
|Child Care:||Licensed Child Care Home,|
We met on a blind date, we were set up by Sarah’s boss. We dated for 9 months before we got engaged and were married a year and half after that.
We found out immediately we had a lot in common. We had both endured some difficult situations but came out strong. We have a very similar worldview.
We are always realistic about our expectations of each other and understand that we are both responsible for our own happiness. With that said we support each other 100% in every endeavor.
Together we love spending time outdoors, taking walks and hikes. We like camping, riding bikes, going to the beach, going out to eat, cooking meals together at home, watching movies, skiing, watching TV shows, concerts, reading with our daughter, going on trips, planning for the future, shopping, listening to music, spending time with friends
Personal hobbies for Max include cycling, camping, hiking, skiing, snowboarding, spending time with friends, cooking, DJing, record-collecting, backpacking and traveling.
Personal hobbies for Sarah, reading, listening to podcasts and staying up to date on politics and current events, and spending time with friends.
Our families are rather small, but we are lucky to have created our own extended family with our large and diverse network of friends. Many of our friends have young children who will become lifelong friends with our children.
We value these relationships and have put a lot of work into maintaining them over the past 30+ years. We spend holidays with these people and have made traditions with them such as ski and camping trips.
Our kitchen and living room are the same room on the main floor. We also have a family room in our finished basement. We have a large backyard with a playground. We also have a decent-sized driveway down a hill and away from the street for bikes and play.
Our neighborhood is technically urban as it lies in the city of Grand Rapids, but it feels more suburban. It is middle class, predominantly white with some minorities and LGBTQ families. Near our home we have access to parks, pools, beach, campgrounds, bike trails, wooded areas and playgrounds.
We believe in a higher power. We respect various religious institutions and are supportive of the role they play in people’s lives. We do not attend any organized religious events.
We plan on sending our children to public schools. Sarah works in the public school system, and we feel it is important to expose our children to diversity and differing points of view that a public school affords. We will emphasize the importance of higher education and prompt our children to strive for excellence in education.
Discipline is a necessary piece of a child’s upbringing which helps to guide and show them that some actions have bad consequences. It is a way to help prepare them for the world. Behaviors that harm themselves or others require attention and sometimes corrective action. We believe it is a balance of letting a child discover things and making their own mistakes and guiding them with rules and choices. This needs to be constantly adjusted and reevaluated as they get older.
As a software analyst, I find my work very challenging and rewarding, and I am always learning new things. Every day is different with new problems to solve. I love this job because I am basically paid to solve puzzles all day.
Also, the customer service aspect of my job gives me a good sense of accomplishment. Solving complex technical problems for large-scale computer systems is really exciting. This job also allows me to work with people all over the world each day.
My employer affords me 4 weeks of paid paternity time, and I am saving as much of the additional 25 days of paid time off for the year. I am also considering taking additional unpaid leave.
I work for a local public school coordinating resources and needs for our homeless students and their families. I love that my job gives me the ability to make the school day less stressful for those in a really tough situation.
I am lucky to follow a school calendar schedule and have 10 weeks off a year. Depending on when our family grows, I may have extra time because it falls close to a school break. I will take 12 weeks of FMLA and ask for extended leave if that is what is better for the child. We have also discussed one of us going down to part time if that option seems necessary.
We are sorry you are facing such a difficult decision. We can’t understand exactly what it feels like to experience what you are going through, but we are here to listen and help where appropriate.
Sarah was adopted, and while every adoption is different, she can directly relate to the hard feelings around adoption.
We would love the opportunity to get to know you and answer any questions you may have about our family and how we plan to incorporate new members. We want to take this journey with you at your pace and at the level of involvement that makes sense to you, and we understand that can change.
Thank you for taking the time to consider our profile. Sending you thoughts of love and peace.