We joke around that we can read each other minds.
Early on when we were first dating we were over at friends playing catch phrase. We were on opposite teams and on different sides of the room. It was late in the game, and it was being passed from person to person.
Jamilah got hold of the game and read the clue word, there was a spark of recognition and she excitedly said ‘Oh!’. Right at that moment the buzzer went off and Ryan’s team had a chance to steal.
With how excited Jamilah acted he guessed that the word was ‘Avocado’. He was right! He and team gained three points.
|Gender:||Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child|
|Ethnicities:||Any Race and Ethnicity|
|Age:||Newborn to an Older Child|
|Total of:||1 Child|
|We Live In:||Grand Rapids|
|Our Faith:||Open to all religions|
|Kids Already:||No Children Now|
|Child Care:||Family Member Child Care, Licensed Child Care Center, Licensed Child Care Home,|
We met while Jamilah was working as a waitress at Applebee’s in 2007. Ryan came in as a regular after softball games that he played with his friends. We both thought each other was pretty cute, and then we learned that we both come from similar backgrounds and have shared values.
We are both independent and supportive of one another’s interests and pursuit of friendships outside our relationship. We enjoy having fun together and being goofy.
When we started dating we would go out for coffee, go out to eat, go for walks, play games, play mini golf, or just sit together on the couch and each do our own thing. We were engaged September 23, 2009 and married on December 1, 2009 in Las Vegas.
Ryan likes to listen to music, play videogames, watch comedies and go to concerts. Jamilah likes to do crafts like painting rocks, building terrariums, and cross stitching. She also like to play golf and travel.
Together we have a cabin at Sandy Pines Recreational Community. It’s a place we like to go on the weekends to relax and spend time with family friends. We like to entertain people there and have barbecues, play cards, and have campfires. It’s a relaxing get away from our normal busy weekday lives and our dog loves to walk the trails.
Ryan’s parents and sister live in town and we get together semi-regularly for birthdays and holidays and special events. We like to spend time on my parent’s back deck and grill food and socialize. Ryan likes to go to concerts and will meet up with friends to go to the local venues.
Jamilah’s family is out of town near Chicago but we will visit them a few times a year. Jamilah like to golf with her friends, and we like to invite people over to our house to play board games.
We live in a residential area of Grand Rapids, Michigan. Our neighborhood is considered middle class. The makeup of our neighborhood is primarily Caucasian, but there are also families with African American and Asian backgrounds.
Our home is a one story with a finished basement with a slider that leads out to a patio and the back yard which has a large maple tree and play set with a slide and swings. A driveway to the left of the home leads to an attached two-stall garage. There is a main entrance in the front, in the back there is a door to a deck with railing all around.
We believe that love and compassion are the strongest values that we hold. Giving people respect and treating them fairly and with dignity is paramount. While we appreciate many faiths and traditions, we don’t adhere to one specific theology.
Education is very important. We both believe in lifetime learning and that being curious is very important. We are supportive of each other’s interests and are always willing to let the other person invest time and money in investigating a possible new passion.
We feel our life experiences have given us the opportunity to practice some of the skills that will be useful in parenting. These skills include being patient, listening, expressing love and affection, and setting healthy boundaries. Jamilah has helped raise children in a previous relationship and that has provided her an opportunity to prepare for children.
I work for an eDiscovery company in the Technology Support department. I monitor systems to to maintain up time, interact with clients to address any issues or questions they may have, and develop innovative new solutions to differentiate our company in the market.
My job requires a high degree of problem solving and knowhow to diagnose and troubleshoot issues. I’m a very curious person and like puzzles, so figuring out why things are working (or not working) is fun for me and a really enjoyable part of my job.
I’m also able to form relationships with our clients and assist them in a similar manner to find the best way to get their job done, either with custom development, advice on workflows or solving technology issues.
I would continue to work full-time during the day when a child is placed in our home.
I am a licensed massage therapist and have owned my business for ten years. I enjoy helping people feel better, relax and discover ways to treat stress and pain at home. I’m passionate about wellness and creating a balanced life.
I enjoy educating people and a lot of my job is teaching my clients about yoga, meditation and working on trigger points themselves to reduce pain. I love the flexibility of working for myself and the ability to take time off to visit family or travel with friends.
I am self-employed so I have full control over my schedule and the hours that I work. This flexibility allows me time for another one of my passions: cooking healthy, delicious food.
I will continue to work part-time when Ryan or another caregiver can be present. For the limited times childcare might be needed, our first choice is in-home care, but, if necessary, we will look at local daycare facilities. Our first choice for school is Montessori and we also have nearby charter and public schools to explore.
Locally, we have a support network that includes friends and Ryan’s family, who are willing to babysit as needed. Nationally, my large family is also part of our support network. I have 5 siblings, 14 nieces and nephews and 26 great nieces and nephews!
Thanks for looking at our profile. We’re a couple who has struggled with fertility issues and have been wanting to expand our family for a while now. We’re two responsible people with a lot of love and compassion to share, and are looking to adopt to share and expand our joy. My niece was a mother that decided to place her child up for adoption and we know what a heart wrenching decision it is.