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Max & Sarah

Max & Sarah

We both love music and have a deep appreciation for the artists creating it and the joy it can bring to people’s lives. Max played drums starting in middle school and through and after college. He DJs on the side as a way to exert that creative energy and love for the artists. We have a pretty extensive record collection and not a day goes by without multiple records being played, covering many music genres.

When Sarah was in labor, Max added DJ to his coach role and had the whole room vibing along.

When Sarah was in labor, Max added DJ to his coach role and had the whole room- doctors included- vibing along. Our daughter was born to a song by a popular rapper, and at age one, she can pick that artist out in pictures. We love that certain songs can transport you back to an important moment and love sharing those memories with our daughter.

our adoption hopes

Gender:Any Gender, including an Ambiguous or Transitioning Gender Child
Ethnicities:Any Race and Ethnicity
Age:Newborn to an Older Child
Total of:1 to 2 Children

a snapshot of us

We Live In:Grand Rapids
Our Faith:Open to all religions
Pets:No Pets
Kids Already:One Child Now
Child Care:Licensed Child Care Home, 

Our Story

We met on a blind date, we were set up by Sarah’s boss. We dated for 9 months before we got engaged and were married a year and half after that.

We found out immediately we had a lot in common. We had both endured some difficult situations but came out strong. We have a very similar worldview.

We are always realistic about our expectations of each other and understand that we are both responsible for our own happiness. With that said we support each other 100% in every endeavor.

We are always realistic about our expectations of each other and understand that we are both responsible for our own happiness.
Together we love spending time outdoors, taking walks and hikes.

Our Relaxation & Fun

Together we love spending time outdoors, taking walks and hikes. We like camping, riding bikes, going to the beach, going out to eat, cooking meals together at home, watching movies, skiing, watching TV shows, concerts, playing with our daughter, listening to music, and spending time with friends

Personal hobbies for Max include cycling, camping, hiking, skiing, snowboarding, spending time with friends, cooking, DJing, record-collecting, backpacking and traveling.

Personal hobbies for Sarah, reading, listening to podcasts and staying up to date on politics and current events, and spending time with friends.

Our Family & Friends

Our families are rather small, but we are lucky to have created our own extended family with our large and diverse network of friends. Many of our friends have young children who will become lifelong friends with our children.

We value these relationships and have put a lot of work into maintaining them over the past 30+ years. We spend holidays with these people and have made traditions with them such as ski and camping trips.

Many of our friends have young children who will become lifelong friends with our children.
We have a large backyard with a playset.

Our Home & Neighborhood

Our kitchen and living room are the same room on the main floor. We also have a family room in our finished basement. We have a large backyard with a playset. We also have a decent-sized driveway down a hill and away from the street for bikes and play.

Our neighborhood is technically urban as it lies in the city of Grand Rapids, but it feels more suburban. It is middle class, predominantly white with some minorities and LGBTQ families. Near our home we have access to parks, pools, beach, campgrounds, bike trails, wooded areas and playgrounds.

Our Views

We believe in a higher power. We respect various religious institutions and are supportive of the role they play in people’s lives. We do not attend any organized religious events.
Sarah grew up in a Christian household and attended a Christian school, she feels very comfortable and knowledgeable of the traditions of the Christian faith.

We plan on sending our children to public schools. Sarah works in the public school system, and we feel it is important to expose our children to diversity and differing points of view that a public school affords. We will emphasize the importance and opportunities related to higher education and prompt our children to strive for excellence in education. We see value in any path that is a passion, that can include trade school, or no school beyond high school.

Discipline is a necessary piece of a child’s upbringing which helps to guide and show them that some actions have bad consequences. It is a way to help prepare them for the world. Behaviors that harm themselves or others require attention and sometimes corrective action. We believe it is a balance of letting a child discover things and making their own mistakes and guiding them with rules and choices. This needs to be constantly adjusted and reevaluated as they get older.

We believe discipline is a balance of letting a child discover things and making their own mistakes and guiding them with rules and choices.
This job also allows me to work with people all over the world each day.

Max's Career

As a software analyst, I find my work very challenging and rewarding, and I am always learning new things. Every day is different with new problems to solve. I love this job because I am basically paid to solve puzzles all day.

Also, the customer service aspect of my job gives me a good sense of accomplishment. Solving complex technical problems for large-scale computer systems is really exciting. This job also allows me to work with people all over the world each day.

My employer affords me 4 weeks of paid paternity time, and I am saving as much of the additional 25 days of paid time off for the year. I am also considering taking additional unpaid leave.

Sarah's Career

I work for a local public school district providing services to students who are homeless. I am thankful that I can make the school day easier for those in a really tough circumstance.

I am lucky to follow a school calendar schedule and have 10 weeks off a year. Depending on when our family grows, I may have extra time because it falls close to a school break. I will take 12 weeks of FMLA and ask for extended leave if that is what is better for the child. We have also discussed one of us going down to part time if that option seems necessary and also will consider me taking off from work indefinitely. We send our daughter to an in home daycare provider that is saving a spot for any additions to our family.

I am thankful that I can make the school day easier for those in a really tough circumstance.
We just want to say

We are sorry you are facing such a difficult decision. We can’t understand exactly what it feels like to experience what you are going through, but we are here to listen and help where appropriate.

Sarah is a transracial adoptee, and while every adoption is different, she can directly relate to the lifelong tough feelings around adoption.

We would love the opportunity to get to know you and answer any questions you may have about our family and how we plan to incorporate new members. We want to take this journey with you at your pace and at the level of involvement that makes sense to you, and we understand that can change.

Thank you for taking the time to consider our profile. Sending you thoughts of love and peace.

Max
 and Sarah

Max

Year of Birth:  1975
Education:      Bachelor of Communication Arts
Occupation:   Software Analyst
Family Background:

My family background is Northern European, primarily British isles. My parents grew up Catholic, and we celebrated the typical Christian holidays in a non-religious way.

Sarah

Year of Birth:  1981
Education:      Masters Degree in Education
Occupation:   Homeless Coordinator
Family Background:

I was adopted from Colombia, South America. I know my birth mother was Colombian, not sure about my birth father. I’ve completed a DNA test that indicates, African American, South American, and Caucasian decent. I was transracially adopted into a white family with Dutch heritage. I grew up in a Christian mostly Dutch community. I have the ability to code switch among quite a few cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

Our ideal open adoption plan includes adding many new members to our family, not just the child. We have a small family and can’t see any negatives to adding more people to love us and our children. We would love to incorporate you into our lives with as much regularity as you wish. We hope you want to attend any milestone events and the every day ones. We’d love a regular pizza night or something similar, the same we want of our current family and friends. We understand that like any relationship there may be ebbs and flows to the involvement and promise that no matter the level of contact, the child will know who they came from.

OUR COMFORT LEVEL WITH DIFFERENT ADOPTION OPTIONS

Meeting together before placement:  
Meeting your family members:  
Exchanging phone numbers:  
Following each other on social media:  
Supporting your adoption counseling:  
Being with you for your prenatal visits:  
Discussing baby names with you:  
Shopping together for baby’s needs:  
Inviting you to see the nursery:  
Being at the hospital during delivery:  
Caring for baby when you are ready:  
Inviting you to workshops, picnics, etc.:  
Keeping you up-to-date with photos:  
Keeping in touch by written messages:  
Keeping in touch with phone calls:  
Keeping in touch with video chats:  
Getting together in person:  
Sharing your photos, gifts, etc. you send:  
Including you in some family photos:  
Introducing you to our extended family:  
Inviting you to some family events:  
LEGEND
Very Comfortable
Mostly Comfortable
Unsure
A Bit Uneasy
Not Comfortable

Our ideal open adoption plan includes adding many new members to our family, not just the child. We have a small family and can’t see any negatives to adding more people to love us and our children. We would love to incorporate you into our lives with as much regularity as you wish. We hope you want to attend any milestone events and the every day ones. We’d love a regular pizza night or something similar, the same we want of our current family and friends. We understand that like any relationship there may be ebbs and flows to the involvement and promise that no matter the level of contact, the child will know who they came from.

Just one more thing...

Our ideal open adoption plan includes adding many new members to our family, not just the child. We have a small family and can’t see any negatives to adding more people to love us and our children. We would love to incorporate you into our lives with as much regularity as you wish. We hope you want to attend any milestone events and the every day ones. We’d love a regular pizza night or something similar, the same we want of our current family and friends. We understand that like any relationship there may be ebbs and flows to the involvement and promise that no matter the level of contact, the child will know who they came from.

To Learn More About This Family
Call or Text: 616-451-0245
(616) 451-0245
(616) 451-0245
Greater Hopes
2453 28th Street SW
Wyoming, MI 49519